I think back to 16 year old Elle, and if I really would have taken advantage of a book that told me what to look forward to when I went to college. I still haven’t figured out the answer, but had I been given an article with at least 5 things that were necessary I think my experience would have been even greater. So here are 5 things that are necessary: Attire. There are important garments that we all should have in college. Something I always preach is before you have a physical business card you are your business card. Someone may not remember your name but they will remember how you looked. So it is extremely important that you have these things. A nice tailored suit would be a good investment for career fairs, interviews, and convocations. It will set you apart from the people with slacks and a blouse. A nice solid color formal dress is needed for functions held at your school that includes alumni and other benefactors. Please stray away from multipurpose club/church pieces, it sends the wrong message in these settings. A nice pair of black pumps says a lot about a women. It shows that she’s mature and that she means business. Stay away from wedged or platform pumps as much as possible. Those shoes can be used for more casual affairs. A nice pair of small gold or silver earrings with a matching necklace are great jewelry pieces. This keeps you in the safe zone especially if you consider pledging, you do not want to show up at a sorority event draped in diamonds or pearls. College Conferences. I learned so much in the past few years about how there were all of these wonderful conferences being held around the world for college students while I was in school. Some were tied directly to organizations such as fraternities and sororities, and others were specific to the industries in which students wished to enter upon graduation. Take South by Southwest for example, it’s been around since 1987 and it’s designed to help creative people achieve their goals. It’s the perfect place to network, pitch ideas, and develop professionally. Find a conference specific to your major, you can't go wrong attending. Internships immediately. Start interning as early as you can. Some people wait until it's time to take the internship class before they start looking for internships. This is all wrong. Take as many internships as possible and understand you may not get paid for it. The real purpose of it is to give you experience in your field and help you fine tune your craft. Reach out to your dream companies to work for and volunteer your time. It could pay off tremendously when you graduate. Make sure your professors know your name. When my stepfather dropped me off at school he said make sure all of your professors know your name. I thought to myself, yeah right, it’s too many students for that to happen. But I made it happen and it paid off because I was able to call on so many of my professors later in life for professional references or advice. And today I am able to return that favor by providing their students with internships and even writing letters of support for their tenure packets. Joining meaningful organizations. I think all organizations have a purpose but I mean meaningful in the sense of what can it do for your future and what can you add to its mission. You can make life long connections and partnerships by joining the right organization. This is also an opportune time to see of you are a leader. So seek to take a leadership position in whatever organization you join. It is better to know now if you can deal with the pressure, than to spend your life hating a leadership role. I thought I was too cool for this in college and I slightly regret it today. I did enlist in the military while in college and the connections I formed there were life changing and helped me complete my undergraduate degree literally. Don’t sweat the small things it’s a short term stay. These years will fly by, you will gain friends and you will lose friends. So cherish the moments you can and do not give power to things you cannot control. Have fun these are the years to do it- just not too much fun. Trust me I know! -Elle Harris
Today is Easter, which has many different meanings depending on who you’re speaking with. Some use this day to provide their children beautiful baskets filled with candy, eggs, and Easter bunnies. Some use this day to visit church in their most stylish apparel and gather with their family afterwards to feast with one another. Then there is a religious meaning tied into this day, as it is the celebration of the resurrection of Jesus Christ.
Lately I’ve seen and heard too many women talk about wanting a man or they are tired of being single or they are tired of dating men that just want them from their body, etc. I must say as a man, hearing this from women gets very old. Instead of looking at the men you are dating and finding fault within them, it might be time to look into the mirror and see what you are doing wrong that is leading you to all of these problems with dating. Dating is really not that hard if you just relax and take it easy. Some women think too hard and they make dating very complex, dating shouldn’t be Sudoku. So I thought it would be a good person and give women some advice from a man’s perspective on some do’s and don’ts when you are on a first date with a man. All of this that I am about to say is pretty much common sense but some of you all lack that when you have high levels of THIRST going through your body at one time. Keep in mind the suggestions I’m about to give you is for a guy that you can actually see yourself with, not a bum dude. So pay attention and its ok to take notes, I encourage it.
I hope everyone is having a great Valentine’s Day today. Today my wife, Elle Harris, has given me the opportunity to write a short article for her site about love and what not. At first I didn’t have any idea of what to write about, but after looking through Instagram a couple of times this morning, I think I have something interesting to write about. I see where a lot of women are talking about what their men are doing for them, but nobody is saying what they are doing or what they have planned for the special man in their life. Most women will say that “My man will just be happy with sex” and that could be true but ladies you can’t keep giving out the same ole ginger snap (my word for THE VAGINA) and expect your man to be ecstatic. Sometimes you have to add the bells and whistles to it too. Just like hopefully, your man does things to make you feel special, you need to do something that they would fully appreciate. So I want to give a couple of preferred suggestions to make sure you have a great V-day experience.
And on the 5th day she engaged him. Engagement is where the real work begins in a relationship. I equate engagement to chess. The queen is the strongest piece on the board because of her ability to maneuver in so many ways she has many hats and should be able to operate successfully from all positions she’s put in. The King is the most powerful piece because once he’s captured its checkmate. This is how engagement should work, you should be able to move in a way that not only captures his attention but leaves him wanting more. A man must be lured in emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically to a woman. Let’s discuss how.
Hopefully by now you are feeling good and you have began to deal with some issues that you may have never acknowledged before. But even in your new found happiness you may begin to wonder when will he find me? My only answer to you is when you least expect it. This is why I always say be on you’re A game everywhere you go. Let me tell you a little bit about men and how they find you.