Give God something to bless!" In other words, do something and do it to the best of your ability and then let God do the rest. You can expect God to bless you when you do your part first.As a woman and mother, I love having the ability to nurture. It is this ability that drives me to encourage and mentor countless women and girls through my organization- just as I did years ago with my sisters. What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? Balance? (smiling to herself) I'm still trying to find that one! Lol! What is one thing many people do not know about you? As a leader, I am forced to be in the forefront, however people may never know that I truly am an introvert. But because I love what I do, I suck it up every time and smile even though I would prefer to remain in the background. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? Lol! A black panther! Well, because a black panther is as tender as it is strong, and I can identify with that! Are there any projects that you're working on that we can look forward to? There are several projects on the horizon for both ACHI Magazine and ACHI WSWA. Our 1st Annual 'Love Yourself' Women's Conference is May 19-20, 2017 in Atlanta, GA. We have ACHI WSWA chapters starting up in GA, FL and another in VA (Richmond area). What does the future hold for you? A personal endeavor: my new book will be released in May entitled "Every Able Body", and I am in the process of being ordained. I want to be the full package when ministering to others. It increases effectiveness. Corporately, further into the year, we will kick-off our 12-city tour for ACHI Magazine in Oct. 2017. This doubles the tour we began just last year. It's a massive undertaking, however my staff and I am up for the challenge. Where can people find you? www.achimagazine.com, www.wswassociation.com Email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org
Our next Influenc-Her we are privileged to highlight is the remarkable Dr. Juanita Fletcher. She wears many hats, has many talents, and she does everything with poise and a humble heart. It is an honor to highlight such an amazing woman who devotes so much of her time honoring and celebrating others. Here's our interview with the powerhouse Dr. Juanita Fletcher . What is your name and what do you do? Juanita Fletcher, I am CEO and Founder of ACHI Magazine and ACHI WSWA (Women Supporting Women Association, Inc.) Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? Too many childhood experiences to name, however there is one that had the biggest lasting effect on me, seeing my biological father walk out on my mother. From that experience, I learned to use pain as fuel. Where did your passion come from? My passion comes from loving, encouraging, giving and protecting my younger sisters from the age of 5. It's what I know and who I am! What has been your biggest achievement thus far? Definitely giving birth to my daughters was my finest hour...both times. It is by far my most gratifying achievement to date. I adore them and am blessed to have them both working at my side on a daily basis. You wear many hats, what is your favorite one to wear? Of course, motherhood is the hat I take pride in wearing every day! Who do you look to as inspiration? God is the only person I look to for inspiration. I work in hopes that what I do gives Him glory. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Likewise, I would advise young girls (or anyone for that matter) to "Give God something to bless!" In other words, do something and do it to the best of your ability and then let God do the rest. You can expect God to bless you when you do your part first.
This is a new blog series we are introducing to our community. Our hopes are to expand it so that you can soon join us on the sofa. Our first piece: About a month ago I was preparing to experience the second year of my father’s birthday without him being here physically. I dreaded this day as much as I dread any major date without him being here, but for some reason this year I was really struggling to pull it together. So my friends offered to come over so that I wouldn’t be alone, I am blessed to say these same friends came the first year as well and we sat on the sofa unapologetically eating every carb we loved. Well this year we turned the night into a festivity and we called it: Tequila, Tacos, and Tears…on a Tuesday. The four of us gathered in the kitchen to collectively cook a meal. We laughed at one of our friends who went ballistic in the supermarket, in order to get shrimp (to suffice my pescatarian needs). Her experience is something she will never let me live down, but I love it, it’s what makes her- her. We sat in my cozy kitchen designed for occasions such as these, and enjoyed this meal together. We made margaritas as if it was Friday night and we had no care in the world. I was able to suppress my feelings until we realized how quickly 7:00 pm turned to 12:00 am. Then it was time to face why we were really there. They each shared their stories of grief and the recent loss of loved ones who played huge parts in their lives. They realized how much their loved ones existence defined their own. Then my friend said, “Elle, this is about you, we have all shared our stories and our tears it’s your turn.” But I didn’t want it to be my turn because I hate being vulnerable I felt I cried last year, and on every other occasion that reminded me of him. Then I shared how I was taught to hold it in, be strong and not cry, but then I realized how much that suppression never really allowed me to deal with my pain. I then remembered hearing TD Jakes say he would hope that his wife and daughters experience an absence similar to the ones he had seen so many women state they have, when he passes away. Because that pain and absence serves as a tribute to the life of the ones we lose. I began to talk about the pain I feel and how it is hard to even breathe somedays because the pain is so severe. But I was ok because I had my friends, my sisters, who had experienced this depth of pain, with me. We left with the belief in our hearts that our loved ones: my father, her mother, her grandmother, and her grandfather, were all smiling down at us and happy that we had one another during a time like this. We needed that time together. All women need this time together. Whether your seat is in the kitchen, or your office, or your sofa. Know it’s important and needed. So please grab a few of your friends and host a Tequila, Tacos, and Tears night, and let us know how it goes. -Elle Harris
The first relationship that a woman encounters with the opposite sex is with her father. In a perfect world the idea would be for a bond between the two to be so tight, that the only way a woman would date or marry a guy is because of her father’s approval. It would be impossible to sway her with gifts, or call her out her name because her father provides her needs, has shown her how to be self-sufficient, and the only time she has ever been called outside of the name he gave her was to compliment her. If this happened we would not have any relational problems but since this is not the case let’s look at why we crave relationships that lack relation. It is said that men are the natural hunters, they like the chase in order to get the ultimate game; I talked about this in a previous blog. Well similar to this, women who have not had healthy relationships with men and/or their father do the exact same thing. We hunt. We hunt for the love that was not given to us, and we do it at all cost. Unfortunately this happens mostly when the man does not want us for anything more than a "good time".
As women we have natural intuition and I strongly believe that with every encounter whether that’s a man or woman we know when that aura of that person is not right. The only time this doesn’t work is when our own aura is clouded. I can personally attest to this, as I have always been warned in advanced or at least felt uneasy when a man I eventually dated was no good for me. Oh but generally the ultimate no goods are some of the finest, most sexually appealing men that walk the face of the earth. I have personally seen one emerge from the water at the beach, he was Israeli he had long dark hair and he was chiseled to perfection. The worst part was the lust he carried in his eyes, as if his pregnant wife was not even a few feet away from him. JUST NO GOOD!!!
I hope everyone is having a great Valentine’s Day today. Today my wife, Elle Harris, has given me the opportunity to write a short article for her site about love and what not. At first I didn’t have any idea of what to write about, but after looking through Instagram a couple of times this morning, I think I have something interesting to write about. I see where a lot of women are talking about what their men are doing for them, but nobody is saying what they are doing or what they have planned for the special man in their life. Most women will say that “My man will just be happy with sex” and that could be true but ladies you can’t keep giving out the same ole ginger snap (my word for THE VAGINA) and expect your man to be ecstatic. Sometimes you have to add the bells and whistles to it too. Just like hopefully, your man does things to make you feel special, you need to do something that they would fully appreciate. So I want to give a couple of preferred suggestions to make sure you have a great V-day experience.