The natural hair era is one of the greatest things to happen to women of color in decades. This wave swept in and reminded us that we are all dope AF. At a young age women are told that their hair is their pride and glory and so when we began to see that our hair did not mirror the images depicted on TV we began to question and even become ashamed of our pride and glory.

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    Influenc-HER Profile Series | Crystal Joseph
    July 18, 2017
    Today we have the honor of interviewing Crystal Joseph, an amazing therapist in the DMV area. She gives us insight on the busy life of a therapist, the importance of work/life balance as an entrepreneur, and a view into why mental health is so taboo. Check out one of our favorite interviews!!! What is your name and what do you do? Crystal (Morrison) Joseph Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (Maryland) Licensed Professional Counselor (Virginia) . . . in other words a “therapist.” Where are you from? 757/Hampton Roads/Tidewater region of Virginia I get questioned when I’m walking around the DC metro area . . . “You’re lying. Where are your parents from?” . . .Virginia. I’m going to start picking a country. Tell us about Psyc Your Mind? It is my conception of a private practice which allows for the use of out-of-the-box interventions to produce therapeutic outcomes. Out-of-the-box includes use of pop culture, sociology concepts, cultural concepts, world events, etc. PSYC /sahyk/ Verb—To prepare psychologically to be in the right frame of mind or to give one’s best YOUR /yohr/ Noun—Indicative of belonging to oneself MIND /mahynd/ Noun—The element, part, substance, or process that reasons, thinks, feels, wills, perceives, judges ! —Expresses extreme emotion Tell us about the meaning behind the name "people's champion" and how you received that name? I used to manage staff and LPNs in a medically-complex group home. My staff were always being written up by the director of nursing (who was lateral to me), which meant if they were taken off the schedule, I had to work their shift and get my own work done as manager. I later realized their write- ups were not due to egregious behavior, but due to a lack of training or retaining information in the way it was initially taught. I learned to re-package the information and partner with them when they were on shift instead of sitting in my basement office. Thereafter, the write-ups decreased completely. One of the staff used to tease me when I reported in the morning saying, “The champ is here!” My husband gave me the final name of “people’s champion.” Sometimes you have to meet people where they are. Then once you understand this, root for them. Teach them. Support them. Where did you know you wanted to become a therapist? This is a hard question. I’m actually not sure. I can’t recall a light bulb moment, but I do remember auditing a class at Thomas Nelson community college at the age of 8! My parents would drop me off to one of the professors in our church parking lot and I would ride with her and sit in her class. In high school, I was dual-enrolled and passed my Intro to Psych courses with flying colors. Why is mental health so taboo? Lack of understanding. Inability to see “it.” And, the increased privatization of managed care systems. We can see someone receive an insulin injection and realize, “oh they are insulin deficient, diabetic.” We can see someone’s hair fall out from chemotherapy/radiation treatment and realize, “wow, they’re being treated for some type of cancer.” But, if I see I have anxiety, depression or a past trauma, the behaviors you see are not matched by a formal, substantive antidote. Instead, combined talk therapy and medication management may be necessary to modify or diminish these symptoms. People of color also lean heavily on their religious affiliations and the church edifice. The indivisible perception of church coupled with the positive outcomes, inherently gives people permission to only seek out church resources instead of partnering with community resources, like a therapist. I’ll be discussing how church leaders can partner with therapists in the community regarding bullying, sexual abuse, LGBTQ and other hot topics in July in Orlando for the Mennonite Church USA convention. What does a typical day look like for you? I go into the office much later than the average worker, so I have time to run errands and cook my lunch and dinner. I have an hour commute to my practice in Maryland and that is due to traffic, not distance. Good music is a must. On Tuesdays I collocate at the South County government building in Alexandria, Virginia for a contract I hold. I try to create my schedule to allow for walking breaks and eating. I sit far more than the average person. I take my last client at 7:00 pm. I do not work on Saturdays and tend to incorporate my self-care on Tuesday afternoons and the weekends. I currently field my own calls, correspondence, and social media. So when I’m not in session, I’m returning phone calls and emails. Many times, the prospective clients are surprised when I answer my phone or return their call. Apparently, there is a lack of customer service in my field? I pride myself on making that a part of my brand. I get home pretty late and need about an hour to unwind. Then it starts all over again. I set a lot of reminders and use a planner. In my field, if it is not written down, it didn’t happen. Who do you look to for inspiration and why? Mom—Graceful rebellion. Her license plate says REBELLE. If people ever wonder where I get my passion from, the apple didn’t fall far from the tree. I speak my mind. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. Over the years I’ve had to become comfortable with that. Whether this involves advocating for my client, a cause or self, I attempt to tactfully bundle up my inner sparks to create agency which will be respected and heard. I’ve learned to play by rules that weren’t made for me to affect change. Dad—Matchless work ethic. He passed away my junior year of college. He would say, “successful people rise early.” He never complained when he had to report to Wachovia (now Wells Fargo) after bank hours for an emergency server issue or cherry pick things from a hard drive which took hours. He had the keys to all of the branches in the 757. I marveled at the level of responsibility which was entrusted to him. I remember sitting in a storage unit with him doing inventory for what appeared thousands of the same piece of equipment. He raised me as his own. Never asked questions, accepted the challenge, and provided. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Don’t give up. The door is locked—try a window. The window is stuck, can you fit through the air duct? Seek out information which fuels your passion; it will not be handed to you. Third, always have a Plan B. What do you love most about being a woman? We’re like water. Givers of life. We can adapt. Ever moving. We can change our state based on our environment . . freeze, evaporate, liquefy. We can get into a rock, freeze, expand the rock itself and crack it. Strength. When we need to modify our message, we can evaporate into steam and transport it in a different form, without being detected. You get where I’m going. Water is life. Women are life. What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? Not taking “client stuff” home. Figuratively speaking, there has to be a wardrobe change or switch. “Change clothes and go” in the words of hometown phenom Pharrell. I work in a stressful field. However, I’ve learned “your emergency is not my own.” There are levels to my provision of service. If you can’t make it a week without me, then we need to discuss you acquiring a higher level of care. I love music and I like to cook. I’ve been cooking since I was 8. I’m from the south. Cast iron please. Find your happy place. What has been your greatest accomplishment to date? Balancing being a wife, business woman, and therapist. My husband is my biggest supporter. He meets my commentary with support and a flair of board room bravado. I know I can come to him honestly with my ideas, but expect to deliver a 30-second pitch lol. He keeps me humble. Is there anything you wish you could do over again? Suffolk City-wide Spelling Bee 1997. “Benevolent.” B-E-N-E-V . . . -E-. . . l-e-n-t. “No I’m sorry that is incorrect.” I will never forget that word or its meaning. What is one thing many people do not know about you? I peel the top and side crust off of my PB&J sandwiches. The bottom crust remains. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? A rabbit. LOL. They’re cute and cuddly, but quite witty and fast. What does the future hold for you? God knows. I learned at a young age to stop making plans. I would become frustrated to tears and my dad would say, “not everything will go your way Crystal.” That has stuck with me and balanced out my expectations. Where can people find you? Facebook| Crystal Joseph & PsycYourMind Instagram| thereal_psycyourmind Twitter| @PsycYourMind Psychology Today www.psycyourmind.com
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Gladys "Liv" Murray
    May 30, 2017
    Today we highlight an emerging leader known to many as Liv. She is talented in so many areas of life and she gives a glimpse into what has helped her become the amazing women she is today. Check out our interview!!! What is your name and what do you do? My name is Gladys Olivia Murray, also known as "Liv", and I am a women's empowerment blogger, inspirational graphic tee designer, freelance makeup artist, and graduate student at Florida State University. Where are you from? Orlando, FL Tell us about Get Livted? Get Livted is a personal brand that underlines the essence of faith-based thinking in daily life. Through blog posts, YouTube videos, and follower/subscriber engagement, Get Livted strives to function as a mainstay of virtual empowerment platforms for millennial believers. Get Livted also houses "Get Liv-tees", an inspiration graphic t-shirt line. On your site you state you chose your purpose over your plan, was this a hard decision and walk us through this process? I won't say it was hard, because there's honestly nothing to it but to do it. Making that decision is the half the battle, so once you can get past that point, there's much more peace on the other side. This doesn't mean it will be a cakewalk, because there's a lot of uncertainty associated with following what's in your heart versus what's in your head. But no matter how solid and secure following a plan may seem, the peace you have from knowing you are where you're supposed to be, doing what you're supposed to be doing, is something that can't be replicated. When did you know you wanted to become a writer?  I knew that writing was my gift before I ever realized I wanted to be a writer. Growing up, people always asked me what I wanted to be, and I always felt obligated to state something that sounded good. My family had high expectations for me and with two college-educated parents, the bar was already set high. So I'd bounce between different professions in the medical field when I gave my responses. And at one point my interest was genuine; I wanted to be an OB/GYN. But nothing gave me the gratification I got from writing words that could jump off paper and penetrate the heart of the reader. So I chose to mute the noise of everyone else's expectations, and I chose to major in journalism at Florida A&M University. Do you ever experience writer's block and if so what is a good way to get out of it? I am very intentional about the words I speak and write to others. As a result, I only share what I believe God has given to me say. So when I have writer's block, I don't pursue inspiration from other people or things. I just live my life and go on about my business as I would normally. Sometimes this has caused big gaps in between blog posts, and I have moments where I feel like I need to put something out there. But when the Holy Spirit is ready to speak, He speaks. And I don't rush Him, I just patiently await a fresh word. What does a typical day look like for you? It honestly varies on any given day, but it often includes going to class or working on assignment for class, going to church depending on the day of the week, doing makeup, documenting orders for shirts from Get Liv-tees, and watching Netflix if I get a free hour of cinematic relief. And before I go to bed, I always read my bible or a faith-based book. Even on my "free" days, however, I'm always planning for something. Brainstorming the next venture for my brand, the next topic for my blog, or catering to some type of request by a family member or friend. Who do you look to for inspiration and why? I don't think I ever look for inspiration, it just comes. It's usually random and comes from situations and moments I would've never foreseen being significant. However, there are a few people whose lives and platforms I consider to be inspirational to me. Sarah Jakes Roberts, author and first lady of One Church LA, is at the top of that list. As a fellow writer I have a unique appreciation for her gift and way with words. As a fellow pastor's daughter, I connect with her perspectives in more ways than the average person, and her transparency has inspired my own, time and time again. What do you love most about being a woman? I love the femininity associated with our sex. I love being dainty, dolled up, pretty, and somewhat delicate. And I love that you can be a strong, powerful woman, yet still be all of those things.   What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? Discipline. Each and everyday, I have to be intentional about how I spend my time and search for new ways to maximize it. My schedule can be very demanding and there are often several things on my to-do list day by day, but being disciplined is how I manage to stay on top of it all. What has been your greatest accomplishment to date? I would have to say establishing a relationship with Jesus Christ. Every milestone in my education and entrepreneurial endeavors pales in comparison to how getting to know Jesus has impacted my life. Knowing Him is the gift that keeps on giving; it's an accomplishment that will always supersede the rest. Is there anything you wish you could do over again? I believe my life is unfolding the way that God intended it to, but if I could go back to the start of my undergraduate career, there are some things I would do differently. For starters, I would be more intentional about building my savings account, I would maintain my involvement with theatre and acting, and I would have joined my current church my freshman year instead of my senior year, lol.  What is one thing many people do not know about you? I used to struggle with my self-esteem. From the outside looking in, not many would ever guess that. I've always presented a very well-put together image physically, academically, and professionally. But no woman is exempt from the journey to seeing herself the way God sees her. I, too, had to experience that process, and I'm still a work in progress.   What does the future hold for you? I'm still waiting to figure that out, lol. We can make our plans, but the Lord orders our steps. So I don't know what tomorrow holds, but I know who holds tomorrow. I used to be an avid planner for the future and I would create timelines in which I wanted different things to come to pass. I learned that there's nothing wrong with setting goals, but we have to consult with God even in the planning process, because the safest place to be is in His will. So I consider different ideas of where I'll be living and what I'll be doing 1, 5, and 10 years from now, but I keep an open ear to the Holy Spirit because He directs my path. Where can people find you? I currently reside in Tallahassee, FL, but I can always be accessed on my social media profiles: @getlivted on YouTube, Facebook, and Instagram.
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    Influenc- HER Profile Series | Erica Dias
    March 31, 2017
    Today we highlight Erica Dias, author and part owner of The B Firm. Her book Faith It Until You Make It is a compilation of inspirational quotes. Check out this interview to learn more about this Richmond California native who is making major moves in PR, fashion, and more. What is your name and what do you do? - My name is Erica Dias and I am the Author of Faith It Until You Make It, which is a book full of inspirational quotes. I am also the owner of The B Firm PR, which is a PR & Marketing Firm and I own a vintage boutique called; Vintage & More 101 Where are you from? - I am from Richmond California  Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? - My grandmother used to always tell me to come to God in secret and he will make things happen for you. Stop telling everyone what you are about to do and just do it. My mother and father believed in every little, or big idea that I had, even if they didn't fully know what a wardrobe stylist was. When I did my first internship in NYC when I was 16, my mother came with me to NYC to make sure I got settled. My mother and fathers support made me feel like I could do anything in life!  Where did your passion for PR come from? - I've ALWAYS loved helping people! I started my career as a Wardrobe Stylist, and as times shifted the caliber of jobs that were in front of me, were not as "purpose driven" as I would've liked. I told myself then, that I would hire myself and inspire people and assist in building their careers.  My sister; Ashley Jernigan was killing it in her career as a Publicist, I decided I wanted to take the "underdogs" and build their careers up, and the rest was history. Is there great pressures associated with the PR field, and how do you handle that pressure for your clients? - Sometimes there is pressure because some clients forget that PR is a process, not a product. As my career has grown, I honestly don't feel the pressure that I did in the beginning of my PR career. I've learned to really, just let go and let God and just do my best. Also if a client becomes "too much to handle" lol I have no problem terminating their contract. What does a typical day look like for you? - I get up at 7am and have my quite time for about 5-6 mins., to just do nothing but talk to god and if I remember I try to do my breathing exercises. Then I check my emails, check in with my team, and my clients. Earlier in the week, I go to my store, merchandise inventory and do a feel insta-stories. Around 6-7pm I am usually at a movie screening, networking event or having a meeting. When I get home, I regroup and usually figure out more ways to work smarter not harder. Lately, I've been writing my 2nd book called "No Flitter". Who do you look to for inspiration and why? - I look to so many people and things for inspiration. Everyday my little sister; Fabeah (14) and little brother; George (12) inspire me. I told myself that I would be the change that I wanted to see, so everyday I try to be better than I was yesterday. Also my father is my daily inspiration. Nothing was handed to him. He's worked extremely hard to provide for his family and he did that a more. He was a single parent of 5 kids. He did me and my sisters hair, he cooked, took us on trips and never complained about his work load. He worked all the time but still made time for his family and did his best. My dad didn't have the best upbringing but he made sure that he was the best father that he could be to his children. My dad is my hero, and my everyday inspiration. My mother is also a major inspiration to me as well, because no matter the circumstances of her being a single parent she provided for my brothers, sisters and I. She is defiantly a role model for me in many ways. She gave me confidence in myself. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? - I would give them 2 things. One a bible, and the second would be my book full of inspirational quotes called; Faith It Until You Make It What do you love most about being a woman? - what I love most about being a woman is my compassion for others. Women are nurturing, and we love hard. I love that about being a woman. I love that we have a certain type of magic that is indescribable. We are just amazing!!!!  What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? -  The key to finding balance in my personal and professional life is to just write it down and REALLY take time for yourself! I am the most important project that I'll ever work on so I have to take care of her.  What has been your greatest accomplishment to date? - one of my greatest accomplishments to date was when I had my 20th Erica's Table of 20 luncheon and I really opened up and told my truth of how I got here. I was as transparent as possible and I left the truth rite in that room. One of my attendees told me that God told her to come to my event and she had been dealing with depression and wanted to end her life. She told me that my story saved her.  I knew then that my purpose was bigger than me. Is there anything you wish you could do over again? - Hmmmm, I don't know because I feel like everything that has happened to me has been about of the story that God wrote for me.  What is one thing many people do not know about you?     -I'm scared of roller coasters.  Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? - I would be a blue bird, because there presence reminds me of peace.  What does the future hold for you? - More books, another vintage boutique, I also want to open a laundry mat. My goals are to work smarter not harder and hopefully along the way, I get married.  Where can people find you? - Instagram: @TheBFirmPR @EricaDias101 @TableOf20 @VintageAndMore101 FB: The B Firm PR & Vintage & More 101 Website : TheBFirmPR.com , EricasTableOf20.com and VintageAndMore101.com
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Nakisha Varlack
    March 17, 2017
      Today we have the pleasure of honoring the multifaceted leader, Nakisha Varlack, this powerhouse serves in many capacities and today we are privileged to share with you what we have learned about this amazing business leader. We discuss life as an Executive Public Servant and her days as a professional model. Check out our interview!!! What is your name and what do you do? Nakisha Varlack – An advocate who is committed to inspiring girls and young women around the country to recognize their inner ability to achieve greatness and reach their full potential. My desire to serve towards impacting the lives of young women and children resulted in becoming the Founder and CEO of Girl Power United (GPU), a nonprofit organization dedicated to positively empowering the lives of teenage girls through education, awareness, inspiration, and mentorship. In addition to my advocacy work, I’m a multi-faceted leader with a career as an executive public servant within the federal government. Where are you from? Born in Illinois and raised in the U.S. Virgin Islands which is where I call home. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? Having been raised by two very supportive parents, I had a strong foundation in which they prepared me for the different experiences that I would encounter in my life. They instilled certain values that I use as a guide through my life’s journey.   Where did your passion come from? I became a mother at the young age of 18. As a teenage mother and throughout my adulthood, I strive to live in my life’s purpose of creating a promising future for my daughters and to serve as a motivating example for other young women to view their aspirations as possibilities. As a woman in your industry, is there a thin line between advocating for your stance in an issue or people viewing it as the emotions of a woman? As a woman that entered the management field in the federal government at the young age of 22 years old, I learned very early in my career on how to master the skills of emotional intelligence in what is still considered to be a male dominated field. As a result, I’m able to be secure in using sound analytical reasoning to make the most difficult leadership decisions. Who do you look to as inspiration? First and foremost, my source of inspiration comes from my faith in God. I realize that my successes are attributed to the plan that God has for me. It is my goal to ensure that I am fully prepared to carry out his plan by obtaining the necessary knowledge, skills, and abilities through continuous learning and different life experiences. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? The best piece of advice for achieving success is to stay focused on your goals, work hard towards those goals, and continuously strive to plan effectively for future development. What do you love most about being a woman? What I love most about being a woman is being able to recognize my true value. What is one of your biggest accomplishments to date? My biggest accomplishment to date is being a positive role model in the lives of my children and to others with whom I have mentored and guided over the years. Is there anything in life that you wish you could do over? If I could do my life over, I would work towards increasing the amount of lives in which I could have a positive impact on. What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? The key to finding balance in your personal and professional life is to ensure that your passion and purpose are strategically aligned with both aspects of your life. What is the gift and curse of being in your industry?  The gift of working in the federal government has been the satisfaction that I receive from being committed to serving the public. In contrast, the public can be very critical of the services that we provide. What is one thing many people do not know about you? That I modeled professionally for three years while living overseas in Japan. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? If I had to choose, I would be a Chihuahua. Although Chihuahua’s are small and cute, they are a fearless and a confident and powerful force to be reckoned with. What does the future hold for you? I hope to be a part of an organization where I can have the greatest impact by applying my knowledge, experience, and leadership qualities to achieve success. Where can people find you? My email is Nakisha.Varlack@gmail.com or visit our website at www.GirlPowerUnitedInc.org.
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    State of the American Woman Panel
    March 10, 2017
    This town hall inspired panel focused on starting the conversation amongst women, about our traditional roles and progressive thoughts. It was centered around the question where are we now and what does our future look like.
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Angela Young
    March 9, 2017
    Angela Young is an author, motivational speaker and powerhouse behind the beNaked campaign. We had the opportunity to interview this change maker from Dallas, Texas who is making her mark throughout the world. Check out our interview with her. Where did your passion come from? I understand that part of my purpose is to be a service to others. I wholeheartedly believe in paying it forward.  My only mission while I’m here is to help make this world a little bit better. I want to impact the lives of women. Whether I’m curating a magical experience/event, my poetry, speaking to the youth, volunteering, writing a book, selling apparel with a purpose- I have one intention: to empower women to stand in their truth, embrace their imperfections, identify their insecurities, and love themselves with no apologies. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? I think everything I experienced as child has shaped and molded me into the woman I am today. When I think back on I’m very blessed and beyond thankful for it all. What is the beNAKED campaign? The beNAKED Campaign is a platform to promote self-love. The aim of the campaign is to empower a generation of women to walk in their own truth, wholeheartedly embrace their perfect imperfections, and not be ashamed of who they naturally are.  Instead, celebrate real-love and be inspired to be confident and comfortable in their skin. It’s a platform for all women to grow into an unapologetic fearlessness that others can learn from. Who do you look to as inspiration and why? GOD! He is the source of my inspiration. I’m just the vessel. Give us a little synopsis of Pieces of Me? Reading poetry opens us up in a unique way. A poem on grief may remind us of our own sorrows; a poem on family may bring to mind our own loved ones. Somehow, the more personal a poem is, the more we can relate it to our own lives. In Pieces of Me, poet Angela D. Young not only recognizes that connection, but she also openly invites readers to share their reflections. Creating a conversational thread by including quotes from other authors after each of her poems, she also sets aside blank spaces throughout the book so that readers can write their own thoughts, perhaps even their own poems. There are too many divisive messages in the world today, especially toward women. But Pieces of Me stands as a beacon of sisterhood, speaking the truth about who we are and who we can be. As readers receive works of peace, love, hope, and happiness from the poet, they begin to recognize the pieces that they, too, have to offer the world. Pieces of Me is a book of poetry that should be on every woman’s shelf, reminding them that they are beautiful, amazing, and unique. What is a quote that you live by?  One of the quotes I live by is from Jermaine Moody: “When the right door opens be courageous enough to walk through it, be courteous enough to only take those who are capable with you, be swift enough to close the door afterwards, be observant enough to know that millions would never get the opportunities that you have, and be strong enough to continue while others mock you they will eventually honor you, be wise enough to build new doors, be great enough to open them for others.” What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Always believe in YOU. Authenticity + Self-Respect+ Hard work will get you far. Dream big and don’t allow the world to box you in. Greatness is in all of you, but it’s up to you to tap into it. What do you love most about being a woman? I absolutely love my resilience. What is one of your biggest accomplishments to date? Whew! This is a tough question because I’m so grateful for all my accomplishment. But if I had to pick one it would be that I self-published my book. It has been a dream of mine since I was fifteen years old. It’s still is so surreal for me. Is there anything in life that you wish you could do over? In the early years of my career I wish I would have capitalized on opportunities and relationships while being in the position I was in.  But I do believe everything happens for a reason and it was such a valuable lesson. What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? Prioritizing! Making time for what’s important and knowing when to say no. But it starts with making sure to take care of YOU first. No one can pour from an empty cup. What is the gift and curse of being in your industry? Being able to work with and meet so many dynamic women is definitely the gift. The curse would be reassuring other women I’m not out her trying to compete. There is more than room at the top for all of us. What is one thing many people do not know about you? I’m an introvert. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? LOL. I would be a butterfly. “A butterfly is a magical symbol of great transformation to come. It is a reminder that our current reality is to be experienced so that we may grow to change for the better. We are to accept and embrace these changes while keeping our faith in the end results.” The butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of pain or darkness yet you become something beautiful. And I’m liking the woman I’m becoming because I fought so hard to be her. What does the future hold for you? I will be introducing my brand iAMAngelaYoung to the world which will be the home for all my current and future projects.  I want to welcome everyone into my world of women empowerment, where I encourage all women to walk in their truth, share their stories, embrace their imperfections, and make valuable connections with other like-minded women. This will be my creative outlet, an authentic space to build genuine relationships and make magic with other dope women. I also want to curate magical experiences with my events. I want women to be Encouraged, Inspired, and Empowered. My website will be launching soon. Where can people find you? People can find me on Instagram @iam    _angelayoung and @benakedcampaign
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Brandi Kellam
    February 23, 2017
    Today we have the honor to share our interview with this amazing woman who continues to excel in every goal that she sets for herself. Brandi Kellam is a MSNBC and NBC producer. She is also an instructor at the prestigious S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications at Syracuse University. Check out our interview with her as she discusses work/life balance, her inspiration, and the FBI.
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series | Dr. Juanita Fletcher
    January 26, 2017
    Our next Influenc-Her we are privileged to highlight is the remarkable Dr. Juanita Fletcher. She wears many hats, has many talents, and she does everything with  poise and a humble heart. It is an honor to highlight such an amazing woman who devotes so much of her time honoring and celebrating others. Here's our interview with the powerhouse Dr. Juanita Fletcher     . What is your name and what do you do? Juanita Fletcher, I am CEO and Founder of ACHI Magazine and ACHI WSWA (Women Supporting Women Association, Inc.) Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? Too many childhood experiences to name, however there is one that had the biggest lasting effect on me, seeing my biological father walk out on my mother. From that experience, I learned to use pain as fuel. Where did your passion come from? My passion comes from loving, encouraging, giving and protecting my younger sisters from the age of 5. It's what I know and who I am! What has been your biggest achievement thus far? Definitely giving birth to my daughters was my finest hour...both times. It is by far my most gratifying achievement to date. I adore them and am blessed to have them both working at my side on a daily basis. You wear many hats, what is your favorite one to wear? Of course, motherhood is the hat I take pride in wearing every day! Who do you look to as inspiration? God is the only person I look to for inspiration. I work in hopes that what I do gives Him glory. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Likewise, I would  advise young girls (or anyone for that matter) to "Give God something to bless!" In other words, do something and do it to the best of your ability and then let God do the rest. You can expect God to bless you when you do your part first. Give God something to bless!" In other words, do something and do it to the best of your ability and then let God do the rest. You can expect God to bless you when you do your part first. As a woman and mother, I love having the ability to nurture. It is this ability that drives me to encourage and mentor countless women and girls through my organization- just as I did years ago with my sisters. What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? Balance? (smiling to herself) I'm still trying to find that one! Lol! What is one thing many people do not know about you? As a leader, I am forced to be in the forefront, however people may never know that I truly am an introvert. But because I love what I do, I suck it up every time and smile even though I would prefer to remain in the background. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? Lol! A black panther! Well, because a black panther is as tender as it is strong, and I can identify with that! Are there any projects that you're working on that we can look forward to? There are several projects on the horizon for both ACHI Magazine and ACHI WSWA. Our 1st Annual 'Love Yourself' Women's Conference is May 19-20, 2017 in Atlanta, GA. We have ACHI WSWA chapters starting up in GA, FL and another in VA (Richmond area).  What does the future hold for you? A personal endeavor: my new book will be released in May entitled "Every Able Body", and I am in the process of being ordained. I want to be the full package when ministering to others. It increases effectiveness. Corporately, further into the year, we will kick-off our 12-city tour for ACHI Magazine in Oct. 2017. This doubles the tour we began just last year. It's a massive undertaking, however my staff and I am up for the challenge. Where can people find you? www.achimagazine.com, www.wswassociation.com  Email me at: juanita.fletcher@wswassociation.com 
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Candice Crocker
    January 19, 2017
    This year we are committed to releasing 24 Influenc-HER Profile Series of trailblazing women living out their dreams. We begin this series with thee amazing Candice Crocker. She is beauty, she is passion, she is influence. Here's our interview with her! What is your name and what do you do? My name is Candice Crocker. I work in Public Relations professionally and I’m a Natural Hair and Beauty Vlogger/Influencer. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? Growing up, my friends would always ask me to do their hair, we’d play with makeup and take pictures after. I’ve been taking “selfies” since I had my first camera. I’ve always shared my beauty and hair tips with my friends because I love beauty and hair products. Becoming a beauty influencer/vlogger is just a natural extension of what I’ve always done and my personality. Where did your passion for blogging/vlogging come from? It happened organically. I’ve always shared my favorite beauty and hair tips/finds with my friends and family so it was only natural to do the same on social media. Once I started sharing, women gravitated to my platforms. I love to help other women and I’ve met many wonderful people by doing this. It’s definitely fun and so rewarding for me. What has been your biggest achievement thus far? My biggest achievement so far was my first Instagram/Facebook Live Takeover collaboration with Creme of Nature and Cocotique. Being invited to work with brands I’ve loved and used since I was a little girl is amazing. Also, being featured on Essence.com was pretty cool. What is the secret to the perfect twist out? I’m still trying to figure that out! LOL! Click here to watch Candice's take on achieving the perfect twist. Are there any products you swear by? I swear by these products: Olive Oil Ecostyler Gel; Aussie Moist 3-Minute Miracle Moist Deep Conditioner; Kinky Curly Knot Today Leave-In Conditioner; TGIN Honey Miracle Hair Mask, Taliah Wajjid Curly Curl Creme Who do you look to as inspiration? I look to my mother (Blanche Crocker), Barack Obama, Michelle Obama, Oprah and Beyoncé as inspiration. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Be you! Be confident in your abilities. There is someone, somewhere, who needs what you have to offer. Your talent/gift/expertise is what makes you special. You can accomplish whatever you want in life as long as you wholeheartedly believe in yourself and put in the work. Be willing to invest in yourself, open to learning new things and fearlessly follow your dreams. I love that we can be strong and soft, feminine and androgynous, sweet and sassy, plain and glamorous, domestic and independent, flexible and rigid. What do you love most about being a woman? I love that we can be strong and soft, feminine and androgynous, sweet and sassy, plain and glamorous, domestic and independent, flexible and rigid. I love being girly, how beautiful it is to be able to give life and that we’re the nurturers of the world. What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? The key to finding balance lies in planning well, communicating effectively and being realistic about what you can accomplish. You must carve out time to take care of yourself. If you don’t make self-care a priority, you’ll overwork yourself and have nothing to offer others. You must create the perfect work life balance for yourself and be unapologetic about it. Only do things that make you feel good inside and stay away from negative energy. What is one thing many people do not know about you? I’m a huge fan of politics and love to get in deep discussions about it but only with close friends and family.   Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? I would be a bird so I could fly anywhere I wanted at any given time. I’d go on vacation every weekend! Are there any projects that you're working on that we can look forward to? I will be taking over Eden Bodyworks Instagram soon. I’m super excited! What does the future hold for you? I’m not sure and I’m okay with that. I’m not putting myself in a box. I have many goals that I want to accomplish, however, I leave myself open to growing and becoming the best I can be. I’m looking forward to evolving, naturally, with my brand. Where can people find you? Instagram: CandiCoatedCurls Facebook: CandiCoatedCurls YouTube: Candice Arielle            
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    The Relaunch
    January 10, 2017
    This video gives the meaning behind our new look. We are so happy to say goodbye to the old and welcome to the new.
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    A Seat on the Sofa
    January 8, 2017
    This is a new blog series we are introducing to our community. Our hopes are to expand it so that you can soon join us on the sofa. Our first piece: About a month ago I was preparing to experience the second year of my father’s birthday without him being here physically. I dreaded this day as much as I dread any major date without him being here, but for some reason this year I was really struggling to pull it together. So my friends offered to come over so that I wouldn’t be alone, I am blessed to say these same friends came the first year as well and we sat on the sofa unapologetically eating every carb we loved. Well this year we turned the night into a festivity and we called it: Tequila, Tacos, and Tears…on a Tuesday. The four of us gathered in the kitchen to collectively cook a meal. We laughed at one of our friends who went ballistic in the supermarket, in order to get shrimp (to suffice my pescatarian needs). Her experience is something she will never let me live down, but I love it, it’s what makes her- her.  We sat in my cozy kitchen designed for occasions such as these, and enjoyed this meal together. We made margaritas as if it was Friday night and we had no care in the world. I was able to suppress my feelings until we realized how quickly 7:00 pm turned to 12:00 am. Then it was time to face why we were really there. They each shared their stories of grief and the recent loss of loved ones who played huge parts in their lives. They realized how much their loved ones existence defined their own. Then my friend said, “Elle, this is about you, we have all shared our stories and our tears it’s your turn.” But I didn’t want it to be my turn because I hate being vulnerable I felt I cried last year, and on every other occasion that reminded me of him. Then I shared how I was taught to hold it in, be strong and not cry, but then I realized how much that suppression never really allowed me to deal with my pain. I then remembered hearing TD Jakes say he would hope that his wife and daughters experience an absence similar to the ones he had seen so many women state they have, when he passes away. Because that pain and absence serves as a tribute to the life of the ones we lose. I began to talk about the pain I feel and how it is hard to even breathe somedays because the pain is so severe. But I was ok because I had my friends, my sisters, who had experienced this depth of pain, with me. We left with the belief in our hearts that our loved ones: my father, her mother, her grandmother, and her grandfather, were all smiling down at us and happy that we had one another during a time like this. We needed that time together. All women need this time together. Whether your seat is in the kitchen, or your office, or your sofa. Know it’s important and needed. So please grab a few of your friends and host a Tequila, Tacos, and Tears night, and let us know how it goes. -Elle Harris  
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    College- What No One Told Me
    January 8, 2017
    I think back to 16 year old Elle, and if I really would have taken advantage of a book that told me what to look forward to when I went to college. I still haven’t figured out the answer, but had I been given an article with at least 5 things that were necessary I think my experience would have been even greater. So here are 5 things that are necessary: Attire. There are important garments that we all should have in college. Something I always preach is before you have a physical business card you are your business card. Someone may not remember your name but they will remember how you looked. So it is extremely important that you have these things. A nice tailored suit would be a good investment for career fairs, interviews, and convocations. It will set you apart from the people with slacks and a blouse. A nice solid color formal dress is needed for functions held at your school that includes alumni and other benefactors. Please stray away from multipurpose club/church pieces, it sends the wrong message in these settings.  A nice pair of black pumps says a lot about a women. It shows that she’s mature and that she means business. Stay away from wedged or platform pumps as much as possible. Those shoes can be used for more casual affairs. A nice pair of small gold or silver earrings with a matching necklace are great jewelry pieces. This keeps you in the safe zone especially if you consider pledging, you do not want to show up at a sorority event draped in diamonds or pearls. College Conferences. I learned so much in the past few years about how there were all of these wonderful conferences being held around the world for college students while I was in school. Some were tied directly to organizations such as fraternities and sororities, and others were specific to the industries in which students wished to enter upon graduation. Take South by Southwest for example, it’s been around since 1987 and it’s designed to help creative people achieve their goals. It’s the perfect place to network, pitch ideas, and develop professionally. Find a conference specific to your major, you can't go wrong attending. Internships immediately. Start interning as early as you can. Some people wait until it's time to take the internship class before they start looking for internships. This is all wrong. Take as many internships as possible and understand you may not get paid for it. The real purpose of it is to give you experience in your field and help you fine tune your craft. Reach out to your dream companies to work for and volunteer your time. It could pay off tremendously when you graduate. Make sure your professors know your name. When my stepfather dropped me off at school he said make sure all of your professors know your name. I thought to myself, yeah right, it’s too many students for that to happen. But I made it happen and it paid off because I was able to call on so many of my professors later in life for professional references or advice. And today I am able to return that favor by providing their students with internships and even writing letters of support for their tenure packets. Joining meaningful organizations.  I think all organizations have a purpose but I mean meaningful in the sense of what can it do for your future and what can you add to its mission. You can make life long connections and partnerships by joining the right organization. This is also an opportune time to see of you are a leader. So seek to take a leadership position in whatever organization you join. It is better to know now if you can deal with the pressure, than to spend your life hating a leadership role. I thought I was too cool for this in college and I slightly regret it today. I did enlist in the military while in college and the connections I formed there were life changing and helped me complete my undergraduate degree literally. Don’t sweat the small things it’s a short term stay. These years will fly by, you will gain friends and you will lose friends. So cherish the moments you can and do not give power to things you cannot control. Have fun these are the years to do it- just not too much fun. Trust me I know! -Elle Harris
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    Relaunch or Die
    January 8, 2017
    It’s been almost 2 years since I set down to write anything for World Wide Women Group. Excuse me if I’m a little rusty, lol. My writing over the past two years has been limited to reports, dissertation preparation, and analyzing quantitative and qualitative data- such joy (in the most sarcastic tone ever). To be completely honest pursing my PhD has been the perfect excuse for me to BS and suppress my need to write. Had I taken the time to write, I would have realized that a relationship I invested so much into emotionally, financially, physically, and mentally was failing. And death was near. *Turns on The Internet Pandora station- Get Away is playing,  puts in headphones, exhales and…* It was the summer of 2015 right after the 2nd Return to Royalty Weekend when I began to resent WWW Group. It was sucking me dry literally. I felt I was putting so much into this thing, I thought was my dream and my purpose and I was getting nothing in return. I was so pissed off about all that the weekend had brought to light. I saw division, hate, jealousy, cattiness, lack of support, messiness, chaos all the things I thought I would never experience again. I saw all of this at the Rally which was the exact event created to unify women, spread love, and support. I remember the moment I planned my escape. I had left the gifts at home (30 minutes away) for the first place winners. I told my mom I had to go home and get the gifts. She wouldn’t let me go. Instead she and my stepdad took the 45 minute ride (they didn’t have an EZpass) to get the purses from my house. I stood there in the middle of the field and I felt as if I was having an outer body experience. I could see all this craziness happening around me. I saw a few people I asked to be a part of this event turn into  pre-Madonna's right before my eyes. Yet I still smiled and accommodated their many requests. I saw many of my volunteers becoming preoccupied with activities completely unrelated to the tasks at hand and I saw how many of our vendors and guests were left unattended to. I wanted to scream. Now there were good parts of this event, our contenders enjoyed themselves thoroughly but I couldn’t completely accept that in the moment, I was too angry. Maybe 5 minutes before it ended I shared this special moment with Princess DeOWNa. We cried together, because we knew what the completion of that day had meant, as I was in such a bad space emotionally and mentally. But she whispered in my ear and said, “I promise Elle if you don’t give up we can do this again next year and you won’t go through any of the things you had to experience. We can do this.”  And I believed her. So I pulled myself together got on the stage and thanked everyone who came out in the nasty rain and stayed to the end of the event. I then said the craziest thing and I remember the gazes and shocked facial expressions that came from my team when I said, “We hope to see you again next year!” WTF. That was August 2015. I did nothing again until December 2015. I was excited because we started to plan for 2016. We had great creative sessions and we had a list of great things we were going to do. Then it was time for the first event the “Kinks and Curls” panel. I stepped back and let my team take on this event I showed up literally 5 minutes before it started and I was underwhelmed. I felt so bad when finding out that my event coordinator had to do everything on her own. So bad that I didn’t even speak at the end of the event. I was so upset that once again I didn't listen to my intuition and provide a level of support I felt was needed. I am sure the people who came enjoyed themselves but behind the scenes it was complete hell.  So I began to rethink all these cute events we had planned and I said no! Cancel! Cancel! Cancel! And I went back to the drawing board and thought about what else we could do, so we started the Influenc-HER Profile Series, and that felt good. We began to interview all of these amazing women who were flourishing in their careers and their stories were so motivating. It was everything that we stood for. Then it was time for the 3rd Annual Return to Royalty weekend. The pressure, the lack of attachment was felt. I was sitting on the floor having a conversation with my husband and I remember saying I refuse for what happened last year to happen again. I am not putting all of this energy and money into something that does not reap a harvest. I’m tired. And he asked me the toughest question ever. “What changed?” There was a time when I would stay up all night not caring about losing sleep or burning my candle at both ends. I thrived off of the pure excitement of watching my visions coming to life. But my dream had become a burden, and I was no longer in love. I had my hand in so many things and I was helping so many others but I wasn’t nourishing this relationship that had been my first love. I loved her before she was fully developed. She was with me before I began dating my husband. I let life and all these cool ideas I wanted to pursue and work and people push us further and further apart. Until I didn’t have anything left to give. I had to make the decision to let it go completely or give it another chance. So I gave it another chance. The 3rd Return to Royalty Rally turned about to be the best one ever. It was because of the effort I put in it because things had to change. I had to believe in WWW Group as much as God believed in me. And it was everything I dreamed it would be. I couldn’t return to business as usual, after that weekend. WWW Group had to be completely different and embody all the things I envisioned it would be. I got so caught up in what everyone else thought it should look like that I forgot what I wanted. Like most relationships, the grass looked greener on other sides and I wanted WWW Group to look like the green I had been exposed to. But how crazy was that idea? I’ve never wanted to mimic someone else’s uniqueness and there was no need to start now.  I felt smothered and everything felt dark and heavy so I said, “it needs to be lighter and airy.” My fair brand mother delivered just that. She took all of the components that make up WWW Group and created one unifying W. I then begin stripping away initiatives and adding others so that they all embodied what I wanted to say to the world. What I believe God wants me to say to the world, and I plan to do just that and run this world. Many people will say that the mixture of business and emotions is the reason why many businesses fail. I get it, I do. But I disagree. When your business is the reason you exist- your purpose, it will be impossible to draw the lines. Unless you hate why you exist, but that’s another blog for another day. -Elle Harris  
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series | CEO Nikki
    November 7, 2016
      Today we have the privilege and honor to highlight CEO Nikki. She talks to us about her passions, her strength and her journey in becoming CEO Nikki, Check out how she conquers every opportunity   . What is your name and what do you do? I am CEO Nikki and I am CEO of Speak HER, one of the founders of HYPE HER, and a Certified Holistic Life Coach & Motivational Speaker Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? At a young age I was always one to use my imagination, now I see it was foreshadowing for my future 😉 I always imagined being on a big stage, talking to people and helping people, so I would say my experience that led me here was my imagination! Where did your passion come from? I was in a really bad relationship with myself in 2012. I was a single mom with breast cancer, depressed, suffering from anxiety if I've never hit the bottom before, that was surely it. I was in a place where I was tired of letting life push me around and backing me into corners and my spiritual sister Lana, taught me about oneness with self and meditation and loving my body and watching what I ate. It turned my life around. I became obsessed with healing self, and others around me. Little did I know this would become my new life. Tell us how you became CEO Nikki? One of my very best friends Carmel actually gave me that name. In one of our many conversations she mentioned how proud of me she was, and how far I had come. She told me I CONQUERED EVERY OPPORTUNITY (hence the CEO) and it stuck with me ever since. You have battled and won the fight against cancer FIVE times, where does your strength come from? The divine, God, the Universe, whatever you want to call it, this higher power has kept me and loved on me the entire time, even when I didn't love myself enough to carry on. This higher power, this entity, has instilled in me a vision of my life so grandiose, that I envision giving people life tools that generations can use and that's the thing that strengthens me. Even at my weakest moment, I can still find strength in that. What words of encouragement could you offer someone battling cancer, who's reading this interview? Laugh and dance!!! Laugh like no one is watching, dance like your life depends on it and do it OFTEN. I remember doing laughter yoga for the first time where you partake in laughing exercises that helps to decrease stress (my doctor's idea, I thought he was crazy at first). I laughed so hard and I don't even remember where the laughter erupted from, I was crying, sweating, my stomach ached, like this laughter felt so good it hurt, but in those few moments, I forgot I had cancer, I forgot I was broke and brokeEN, I was just.....laughing. Laughter heals. Just laugh! What are some of the services you offer and how have they helped your clientele? I offer one on one coaching sessions where we talk about manifestation, goal setting, living your best life and how to apply the law of attraction which is the theory of what you think about, you bring about. I also offer VisionBoard Bashes where I can teach you how to create an effective VisionBoard as well as retreat facilitation. I have had clients that are able to see their own visions clearly all while learning how to purge negativity to aid in the manifestation process. In the most recent VisionBoard Workshops held at Goodwill of the Southern Piedmont in Charlotte, NC, 2 participants saw direct manifestations of their VisionBoard within 3 weeks of creation. Who do you look to for inspiration? The universe. We live in such a fast pace society that we rarely take the time to notice the small things. I have moments where I'm just quiet and present in the moment and pay attention to what's surrounding me. The wind, the trees, people in a rush, people waiting, birds EVERYTHING, and I just wait for the universe to give me whatever lesson I need in that moment. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Trust yourself. You are way more powerful than you give yourself credit. Love yourself enough to ONLY surround yourself with people who will love you and celebrate you and tell you the truth and lastly Speak life into yourself. Words are powerful so choose the words that your ears will hear wisely. What do you love most about being a woman? That I am the giver of life! Any human that's on this earth must first pass through a woman first! How magical is that? What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? Listen. All the answers are revealed to us when we are still. Listen to your body, listen to your heart, listen to God. Be still and listen. What is the gift and curse of being a CEO? The gift is I'm responsible for carrying out the vision. The curse is I'm responsible for carrying out the vision. The irony of the power being in my hands, I can make the right decision, I can make the wrong decision but either way I'll learn and grow. What is one thing many people do not know about you? I hate to see people run their bare toes through carpet, it makes me cringe EEEEK! Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? I would love to be a bird. I'm not sure what kind of bird but birds are meant to rise and fly above. Story of my life. What does the future hold for you? The future holds a "Black Girls Rock" award with my name on it, connecting with some amazing women to change lives for the better, working with my husband to teach other married couples how to be happy and change their families lives, traveling with our daughters and laughing until hurts. Where can people find you? You can find me on Instagram @CEONIKKI on Facebook CEO Nikki and also follow my Company on IG @ispeakHER and @HYPEHEREXPO
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    2016 Royal Soiree
    October 24, 2016
    Check out our montage of this year's Royal Soiree it was a beautiful evening and we are thankful for the support of our WWW Group family, volunteers, and supporters.  
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    Return to Royalty Rally 2016 Photo Recap
    October 18, 2016
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    The Royal Soiree | Event Recap
    October 2, 2016
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series| Jessica Arenas
    September 22, 2016
    Today's Influenc-HER is Jessica Arenas, she's the Digital Marketing Manager for WCSC Live News in Charleston South Carolina. Check out her interview as she discusses her love for journalism and what she loves about being a woman. What is your name and what do you do? Jessica Arenas, currently working as the Digital Marketing Manager for WCSC, Live 5 News. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? When I was young, I always wrote in journals and even said my first job would be a "newspaper girl."  How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? I found my love for writing/journalism my Freshman year of high school - wrote for the school paper there and continued in college. In college (alumna of UNC Charlotte) I was obsessed with becoming a "Carrie Bradshaw" - I ultimately moved from editor roles to having my own relationship column in college. When social media came around, I started my own accounts and learned more and more about them each day. Learned how much they were going to shape our future, especially the multi-media's future.  Who do you look to for inspiration? Who: God. He has blessed me more than I deserve. Also, my dad. He is a man who puts God in the center of his life - he has always taught me to never settle and dream big because I have a big God.  What I look to for inspiration: I still watch Sex and the City when I need a 'writer boost.' I also read a lot of biographies, to just learn more in general or specific biographies of men or women I feel are successful. My favorite biographies that helped shape my career: Stuart Scott (News/Media), Sophia Amaruso (Girl Power/Female Entrepreneur) and Ronda Rousey (for fitness/athletics). Another What: I run to burn off frustration & many times it has helped me conjure up some ideas. What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? I have a very unique upbringing. I was born in the North, grew up around a Northern, Midwest & Southern culture, and to top it all off, I am a first generation college grad. I'm also very independent, I do a lot of things myself. I have a very 'Just Do It' mentality. People get surprised at a lot of things I've been able to do, and especially things I've done on my own. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Save money & to those that believe in God, tithe. See a financial advisor to learn about money & YOUR money. I tithe because I know my money is not truly mine. Find out how you can save but also still have nice things & a good time! What do you love most about being a woman? We have and will probably continue to be underestimated. I believe one day it will change, but as of now - you have to work with what makes you, you. It's fun to prove people wrong.  What is your most memorable moment as a social media producer and multimedia journalist? In general, I love meeting different people. Especially when it was meeting people that made differences in the community. When it comes to being 'star struck,' I felt super important when I got to interview some Carolina Panthers players (post Cam Newton's car accident in 2015) and to watch an NFL game on the field! What is your least memorable moment as a social media producer and multimedia journalist? When you wear the wrong shoes to a gig. Specifically, I wore suede boots to a Panthers' football game - it rained and my boots got destroyed. Learned my lesson to just never wear suede again.    How did you become the Cardioqueen? I just learned over the years that any form of exercise is a must to take care of your body. If walking is your jam, that's great! Find something that gets your heart pumping - it's all about the motivation to move! Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? Like I previously mentioned - women, especially YOUNG, minority, women, will be underestimated. Prove people wrong, ladies! What is one thing many people do not know about you? I actually really want to be good at dancing! I'm no where near 'good' haha but I still love to dance! I do Zumba to get my 'fix' and hopefully one day I will be just as good as the dancers I watch on YouTube. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? A rare bird, like an Eagle. They can fly, which means they can go anywhere! What does the future hold for you? I look forward to calling Charleston/Live 5 News home for right now.  Where can people find you? @JessicaArenasTV on Facebook, Twitter & Instagram
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series| Brittany Garth
    September 14, 2016
    Check out today's Influnc-HER Brittany Garth she is a life coach, writer for Huffington Post, Radio Personality and so much more check out our amazing interview with this powerhouse. What is your name and what do you do? Brittany Garth AKA Life Coach Brittany. I am an international women empowerment life coach, writer for the Huffington post, radio personality for Sip n Chat, founder of The DW Life Coach Network and owner of Dimensioned Wellness, LLC. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? Yes, indeed! As a child I had been a victim of sexual assault causing me to be extremely shy, have poor self-esteem and self-worth. Once I became a senior in high school, I knew that I my life mission would be to help other teens or women who suffered with issues similar to my own which led me to pursue to degrees in social work and clinical therapy and in-turn led me to women empowerment life coaching. Where did your passion come from? I've always had a passion for helping women in the capacity of wellness and have learned within the last 3 years that I am just as equally as passionate about teaching and empowering women to chase after their dreams and become the very best version's of themselves. There is nothing more beautiful then a woman who is aware of her worth, God given talent and is fearless. What is dimensioned wellness? Dimensioned Wellness is a women empowerment life coaching agency that provides empowerment and business coaching exclusively for women. We develop classes, workshops, events and platforms for women to thrive globally. Within the last 2.5 years, we have been able to work with 100 women annually and service clients as far as Senegal and India. What are some of your favorite topics to blog about? I have been blogging since 2014 for my own company, Everything Girls Love (EGL) and most recently the Huffington post and I am most passionate when I am able to talk about topics that are of interest to women and making us better as a person such as (relationships, wellness, DIY projects and highlighting other trailblazing women). Who do you look to for inspiration? This may sound cliché, but I LOVE Oprah. Who doesn't love that woman. The fact that she is a woman, African-American, self-made billionaire is phenomenal, but the fact that she does it with so much grace and remains on top year after year is inspiring to me! What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? I tell the teens I work with all the time...it's never to early to get started working on your goals and dreams. Once you have figure out what you want to do (no matter the age) its time to put the work in to make it happen. Age, sex and race should not be a factor to stop you from seeking what you want out of life. What do you love most about being a woman? There are so many things I love about being a woman, from the options we have for fashion, our femininity, intuition, ability to birth children and can do it all in heels! What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? Set schedules. The more organized and intentional you are with your professional life the more time you will have to focus on your personal life. Also, start every morning off with prayer and meditation! Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? A hummingbird. They are tropical and can fly! What does the future hold for you? I plan to expand my business in Europe, Asia &South Africa. My biggest goal is to have a primetime talk show centered on discussing topics of interest to women (female version of Dr. Phil). Where can people find you? I can be found on Instagram, Periscope and Twitter @DimensionedWellness and our website is www.dimensionedwellness.com. Mobile app can be found in the App store and Google play (Dimensioned Wellness, LLC app)
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Diana R. Ramsey
    September 12, 2016
    Today we highlight the beautiful Diana R. Ramsey, author and founder of SistersWithBeauty. Check out this awesome interview. What is your name and what do you do? My name is Diana R. Ramsey, and I help women transition out of darkness and into light by motivating them in their natural hair journey and life transition. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? All my life as a child I was always talking, moving, and doing something that made me happy, even if it was for just that moment. Experiences such as dancing in front of my mother's company always remind me how eager I was to be in front, never shying away from being seen. Coupled with this and my love for talking to people my age, slightly older, or senior to me, I can say my entire life has developed me. As children we are fearless and only learn  fear as see others try and fail. . Where did your passion come from? God, King Jesus, the source of my soul. Next question..:) What is SistersWithBeauty? SistersWithBeauty is a life brand built on the principles of transition, evolution, and transformation. SistersWithBeauty is a safe haven housed online for Butterflies (followers) to use as a resource for their mind, body, and spirit. What began as a Natural Hair website, has grown into a full on transition headquarters. Full of insightful content on how one can treat their hair, and life better while navigating through their #ButterflyTransition. Who are some of your favorite topics to blog about? Transition, Self-Care, Natural Hair, Female Empowerment & Encouragement, Single Black Girl Life (I’ll be on that until God pairs me and my other rib up) Who do you look to for inspiration? Other black women who are leaders in their industry. These are not always your prime suspects like Oprah, although yes, Mama O is on my list. I like to pull inspiration from real people such as my #BlessedFriend Jessica, who’s finally listening to people who’ve loved her jewelry making in secret but is now starting to step out there and release it to the public. Luvvie Ajayi is another example and prime suspect on my inspiration list. Meeting her in 2013, I never imagined she would inspire me everyday to go get my wins, but she does and in fabulous shoes. I also look to nature, I’ve always felt like God knew my love language, which is #Visual, I see inspiration in the sky, sun, trees, butterflies flying (I literally see one everyday since starting SistersWithBeauty, #Promise).   What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Fall in love with yourself first. This advice seems random but truth is, if you want to stand in front of people, be authentic, transparent, and teach them what you’ve been through, you’re going to have to fall in love with yourself. No one will believe a word you say if you speak it from an insecure tongue. You also must be willing to talk in an empty room until people learn to listen to you. If you are there only when people love you, or like you, or hype you up, you will never help the person you are meant to help. Fall in love with you first, build confidence in your abilities and talents and bam, you’ll be mentally prepared when someone doesn’t agree with you, or tries to defame you.  What do you love most about being a woman?   The FREEDOM to be a woman, my kind of woman. I love the way we can reinvent ourselves within 24 hours. I love how we can support one another and still support ourselves. I love our power, especially after we realize we are the source of it. There is literally nothing like seeing a woman on fire in her purpose.  What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? Knowing that there won’t be true balance until you cut out the bull-shit. Yes, I cursed but let me tell you why. There is no other word to truly highlight time wasted, things sucking the life out of you, or people that don’t need to be there as much as Bull-Shit. If you can find a better word that holds the same intense weight, congrats, use it and share it with the group.    What has been the greatest moment in your career thus far? Becoming an Author. I didn’t see the vision 5 years ago when God told me to start SistersWithBeauty. Life after authorship is just better. After releasing a very personal book filled with well me, I realized I’d told my secrets so they couldn’t turn around and tell on me. I freed myself of the trappings of silence and now I literally find petty ways to roll in that I’m an author in a sentence everyday. #AuthorsBeLike  What has been your least favorite moment in your career thus far? Separating myself in two while pursuing my dreams. Having a full time job and a full time dream has had it’s frustrations. If I can be honest I’m not always feeling blessed to have a career, but when I’m able to pay for my coach services with Julian B. Kiganda, I know God is telling me to be patient and turn to him. It’s still my least favorite moment but it has benefits so until my official leave date, I just roll with it.  What is one thing many people do not know about you? I curse and when I say people I mean my Butterflies who follow SistersWithBeauty. I don’t hide this fact from my friends, nor family but when I started SistersWithBeauty, I took the same approach I did with my professional career. I believed there were just somethings such as cursing that just didn’t need to be on the table, so I didn’t say much of a river damn in or around my business. What I’ve realized is that action contributed to me not always feeling like I could be my 100% self. Like if something pissed me off I found myself just being silent out of fear that I wouldn’t be able to control myself and curse from sun up to sun down. Today, not so much, I’m seeing being myself, and the total expression of that woman is the good, bad, and the ugly. I’m a positive person who if pushed will verbally assassinate you, there here are the damn facts. As I work on being a better person I replace the harsh “B” word with “Bish” but you know what I mean, and I’m OK with that. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? I would be a Butterfly so I wouldn’t have to continuously convince other women that they too are Butterflies, see what I did there. What does the future hold for you? Light, blessings, gains, lessons, and wins.   I don’t plan on turning down or off in my pursuit to changing the narrative I’ve seen in my life about black women. We are everything and even more than we are feared to be. If I have to go at it alone, I will but I know God and he doesn’t operate in a space of loneliness. I will continue to develop as an author, speaker, and transition couch, because there are wings to set free. Where can people find you? You can find me at the hot spot known as SistersWithBeauty.com and soon DianaRRamsey.com, releasing Oct 2016. I’m on the Twitters, Facebooks, and Instagrams under the following: Facebooks: SistersWithBeauty; DianaRRamsey Instagrams: SistersWithBeauty; DianaRRamsey Twitters: SisWithBeauty; DianaRRamsey I am finally to a point where I know where I’m going and I understand getting there will require me to break out, speak up, and even curse a little. I’m so ready and can’t wait to see you. -Diana R. Ramsey All photography by: EYEImagery
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Allynn Tay
    September 6, 2016
    Today we highlight Ms. Allynn Tay she talks about her passions and career as a Certified Life and Career Coach. What is your name and what do you do? My name is Allynn pronounced Allen, but my friends call me Ally! I’m a Certified Life and Career Coach, as well a certified instructor of a course in transformation, from Stanford University’s Business Masters program, “Creative Insight Journey.” Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? Most definitely! I can thank a few childhood memories that have led me to finding my purpose. When you really think about it, we all have experiences from childhood that have made us who we are and brought us to where we are now. How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? I got started in college during my freshman year at Hampton University. I was introduced to “The Secret” and the law of attraction, which instantly caught my attention. After graduating with a Bachelor’s in Psychology, I chose to combine all the natural talents and gifts I accumulated and become a Certified Life Coach. I love to help people find their purpose or use their gifts to find fulfillment. It’s so beautiful to see someone genuinely happy with his or her life. Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? I always of course turn to my higher power, God. I love God! Also my girl Beyonce. She is the true definition of Believing in yourself + God’s grace & blessings = Fulfillment. But most importantly, I turn to myself for inspiration to keep going. I know what I’m capable of & I’m clear on the vision I have for my life. What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? What makes me stand apart is that there is no one on this planet Earth that is just like me. I am my own person who is passionate about helping my clients & students find clarity, gain results & discover their sense of direction & purpose. I am constantly educating & practicing new ways to expand my growth, so it can rub off to my friends, family, clients or associates. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? I would say get to know yourself, trust the process of life & be kind to yourself when you make mistakes. It’s imperative we understand that the more we practice really getting to know ourselves & connecting with ourselves on a deeper level, it allows a sense of clarity to arise. You’ll know what you want out of life & being clear helps attract circumstances to lead you that way. What do you love most about being a woman? Being a woman is everything. I love knowing that I can bring life into this world & have the ability to nurture & provide love for life. What is your most memorable moment as a Certified Life/Career Coach? My most memorable moment so far has been helping my client bring down her stress levels & chest pains, as well as help her increase her income by 50%. I really get a sense of fulfillment helping my clients obtain their goals & gaining confidence & clarity about their life. What is your least memorable moment as a Certified Life/Career Coach? To be honest I don’t have any. I take every moment good or bad as an opportunity to grow, learn & do better. Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? The only struggles I encounter are the ones I create for myself. I have control of what I think, feel & attract. I don’t believe being a woman is a limitation so personally in my experience; no, there aren’t any struggles. What is one thing many people do not know about you? I want people to know that I have a great heart and have a passion for helping people discover life in a more meaningful and fulfilled way. All of us, even the people that rock our nerves, have the ability to be amazing people. As a matter of fact, we are amazing people. Unfortunately, life events can dim our light but we have people who can help us shine again. With that being said, that’s what I hope to bring to the world. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? I would most definitely be a dolphin. They seem so happy and free. They also are very intuitive creatures. What does the future hold for you? I want to continue expanding my knowledge and enhancing my skills, so I can add more value to the people in my life, my brand and the world! I hope to continue to be a positive light for many people and share my talents and gifts that I’ve been blessed with. Where can people find you? Website: www.sipofpositivitea.com Instagram & Facebook: sipofpositivitea  
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Keisha Reynolds
    August 30, 2016
    We are back with our Influenc-HER Profile Series, today we are highlighting Keisha Reynolds, this extraordinary woman wears many hats and today she introduces us to her world. What is your name and what do you do? My name is Keisha Reynolds and I am the CEO of K&R Communications, Co-organizer of EmpoweringHer Brunch, and the Author of SundayswithKeisha, a motivational blog for Black Millennials. I also serve on the core team for the Innovation and Technology Ministry at Second Calvary Baptist Church and I'm the past chairwoman of the Mwanamugimu Essay Contest for the Norfolk Alumnae Chapter of Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? Absolutely. I believe that my mother had a lot to do with it. She encouraged me to write and speak publicly. She placed me in college level courses while I was still in middle and high school during the summer. She gave me every journal, note book, pen, pencil that I needed to be successful, not only that, she challenged me to think critically and didn't fault me for voicing my opinion. All of those things we're the footprint to becoming a public relations specialist. Where did your passion come from? My passion and motivation is something I seek daily. It comes from those I'm surrounded by, things I see or read,  but must importantly my passion comes from within. I push myself to be the very best that I can be in all that I do knowing that my works and effort will eventually make way for the next generation of my family to live comfortably. Tell us about K & R Communications? K&R Communications is a digital public relations firm focused on growing small businesses in the digital realm. We specialize in web design, social media marketing and management, graphic design, photography, company blogging and more. We are a team of people who are passionate about helping small business owners succeed in their efforts to grow or sustain within their particular market. What are some of your favorite topics to blog about? I'm the author of SundaysWithKeisha.com, which is a motivational blog for Black millennials. I started my blog to encourage our generation to believe in the beauty of their dreams and how to trust the journey that is set forth for their lives. It's important to understand that life is a journey not a destination, and the steps you take today (no matter how hard or how many sleepless nights) it will all pay off in the end if you stay the course. Winners never give up. Who do you look to for inspiration? My family.   What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Fight for your dreams! Believe in yourself. Trust yourself. Always seek opportunities to grow. Always build your network. Read, read, and read. And most importantly, seek mentorship from those who are within the industry you want to be in. What do you love most about being a woman? Everything. We're dope! Not only can we birth life, we bring life to everything that we are a part of...we're passionate, kind, assertive and well-defined. What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life? This is a tough one. It's so important to have balance but as an entrepreneur constantly molding your business finding that time is tough. However, you have to carve out time for self because it brings clarity, energy and creativity so that you can continue to be successful. (As I type this, I'm actually on a plane heading to my vacation destination for a week). What is the gift and curse of being a millennial? Ha! There is a proverb that says "do not let people think less of you because you are young." With that being said, people will try to question you as if you have not study the craft, tested your theory and found success because you are young and they’ve  (the older generations of the working class) have "been doing this for a long time or before you were born." But there is a place for everyone and if you provide a good product or service the people/clients WILL come - trust me! The great thing about being a millennial is that we see the world differently and have different experiences. We are fearless. We believe we can accomplish anything, and if you have that mindset you will find success. What is one thing many people do not know about you? I can sing. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? I would be a bird..not sure which type of bird but a powerful bird. I find the sky to be fascinating. It's endless. Imagine the places you could go and the people you could see if you were a bird. The sky is literally the limit. What does the future hold for you? Greater success. Greater opportunities. One thing I'd like to do in the near future is write a book. Where can people find you? You can visit our website KNRpr.com | Follow us on Instagram @krcommunications | Email us at info@knrpr.com. Follow my personal Instagram account as well @_keishakay Also learn more about my brunch series at EmpoweringHerBrunch.com | IG: @_empoweringher
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Gianina Thompson
    July 28, 2016
    Today we get to highlight Gianina Thompson, Senior Publicist for ESPN. She is a hardworking woman and a huge player in an industry many would think is male-dominated. Check out this awesome interview!!! What is your name and what do you do/average day? -       Gianina Thompson: As the senior publicist for ESPN, I serve as a spokeswoman for the network’s NBA and MLB properties. I pitch and facilitate media story ideas and manage media requests and press conferences for ESPN’s on-air personalities and analysts with sports and lifestyle publications. I write press releases that include new on-air personalities, celebrities /athletes joining a show, ratings/viewership for games and write articles for the company’s blogs that serve as a “front row” experience for fans and employees. I also work heavily with the NBA and MLB leagues. This is maybe a slice of what I do as it varies day to day with sports always making no day like the last. I attend major events and games and keep constant communications with on air personalities … and it’s not always to talk sports! Sometimes it’s just to laugh out loud about TV series, ha! Trust me, sports fans can be other kind of fans too! Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? -       Hmmm, good question. I wouldn’t say that taking karate / Tae Kwon Do and becoming a junior black belt in middle school led to me wanting to be in sports and doing what I do now. In college is where I really found my motivation in wanting to be in the sports industry. My master’s thesis focused on how/why/if male college athletes aspire to play their sport professionally more than female college athletes. The simple answer is yes, but I explored the “why” by looking at the influence of several factors like fans, media, networks, funding/money in college programs and leagues, ratings/viewership and more. Who do you look to for inspiration? -       This may sound like a cliché, but my 14-year old sister is my inspiration, hands down. We have this extreme age gap but I’m not ashamed to say that she is my best friend. Moving up to the ESPN headquarters was bitter sweet because it was a dream job but it also meant that I couldn’t just hang out with my little sister whenever I wanted or just be the cool big sis picking her up from school and taking her to the movies and seeing her dominate the soccer field. But I have a great boss who makes it easy for me to go visit my family in Virginia throughout the year. Ok, I got side-tracked from the question, but my sister is my inspiration to be the best I can be because I basically want to be the cool big sister, ha! What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? -       Look to build relationships, not a rolodex… and that takes time, but just because something takes time that doesn’t mean you should try to take shortcuts. My favorite quote is: Never hope for it more than you work for it…. And that’s not just for athletes, that’s for any and every one wanting to excel in whatever he or she is pursuing.   What do you love most about being a woman? -       That we have bigger sections in a clothing store, ha.  Just kidding, even though I do enjoy that! I would say that the sky is the limit because there are so many ways we can make our mark… but again, we can’t give up just because it will take more time or challenges and obstacles will come up that may not be faced by someone else. I’m using a Spiderman quote here, “With great power comes great responsibility,” and as women we have to keep talking the talk and walking the walk because even though we have challenges unlike others, we can’t become our own obstacles. What is your most memorable moment thus far as ESPN's Senior Publicist? -       For some reason this questions always stumps me whenever people ask me. I’ve had so many amazing experiences that I can’t just pick one. But one that happened ahead of me joining ESPN and continued once I became an ESPNer was my relationship with Skip Bayless. He’s selflessly given me career advice, tips on my writings, encouragement and just time to talk about different things. I work with a lot of different talent but he’s by far the one who took the time to learn more about me and my goals than what I could do for him as a PR person. You don’t come around that too often in a fast paced industry like sports.   Do you think many people would find it difficult being a woman in your line of work?  -       I think everyone has a different story and I can’t speak for everyone. I know I’m surrounded by some pretty awesome women who have made it big so I just tell myself, “Well why can’t I?” or “What’s stopping me from taking it to the next level too?” Everyone has something that may be challenging facing them so I’m not going to play the victim role of something out of my control. I’m just going to rock n roll with it and be the best I can be!   What's your favorite sport and who's your favorite athlete?  -       Wow…. That’s a hard one. Strong tie between NFL and NBA. I love good basketball so I can’t say I have a favorite team because with trades my allegiance changes because I’m more player-specific. For example, it used to be the Boston Celtics because I loved how Kevin Garnett, Rajon Rondo, Paul Pierce and Ray Allen played together under the coaching of Doc Rivers—it was FUN watching them play against any team. But now everyone is somewhere else, even the coach! Anyone and everyone who knows me, knows that I am a HUGE Cam Newton fan so I’m locked in on the Carolina Panthers right now.   What is one thing many people do not know about you? -       I pour milk in the bowl before the cereal. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? -       A jackal because their hunting involves the whole family with a tag-team kind of sensation. Teamwork makes the dream work when there’s trust and from what I see on National Geographic, jackals have that down packed! What does the future hold for you? -       Your guess is as good as mine; I’m working on always progressing and making “tomorrow” better than “yesterday” but still enjoying “today.” Hopefully that make sense, but it’s a philosophy I’m living by.   Where can people find you? -       I love Twitter! Definitely follow me on Twitter @Gianina_ESPN for behind the scenes action at games, ESPN shows, cool articles featuring ESPN’s on-air personalities and some quirkiness on my side at times, ha! I’m also on Instagram @GiaPlusNina.
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Kimberly J
    July 20, 2016
    Today we bring to you our interview with Kimberly J, talk show host and radio personality. She brings light into the dullest room and has a heart of gold check out our interview as she talks about  her inspirations and transition into media!!! What is your name and what do you do? My name is Kimberly Jenkins, also known as "Kimberly J." I am a radio personality and Talk Show host, mother of 3 and a wife. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? No, the "Kim" you see now definitely developed during my adult life. My childhood was loving, secure and quite a fairy tale. I was raised in a loving, but firm household. However, my adult life and experiences were a segway to what I would say were a test of my strength, character and determination! My adult life and experiences along the way helped me discover who I am. It redirected my career path and gave me a clear perspective on my "why" or purpose as most would say. However, I'd be remiss not to give my parents credit for correcting my written and verbal grammar and teaching me how to be "well spoken" and confidant which is a strong requirement in media. How did you get started in your current field today? I started working on my own show, Koffee with Kim, about 3 years ago. I went to do a Public Service Announcement (PSA) on 88.1 WHOV for a business colleague and the radio station manager, Jay Lang heard me recording the spot and asked, "Who are you?" He proceeded to say, "I want you to do a show here at the station. You'd be perfect for this." And as they say, the rest is history. Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? Believe it or not my husband and kids--especially my daughter, Kaitlin and Steve Harvey. My husband works so hard and I want to see him retire early and I also want to be a good example for my children and leave a legacy for them. As for Kaitlin, she has overcome so many obstacles from preschool through middle school. She never met an obstacle she couldn't overcome. She has a drive in her that's admirable! As she began to focus on broadcast and journalism from an early age, and defeating her obstacles, I realized she and I had a passion for the same thing. Quite frankly, I was enjoying keeping up with the tabloid gossip, fascinating news stories and talking about it just as much as she was. One day she said, "Mommy you could do that [pointing to the Oprah Winfrey show]." Out of the mouth of babes... Ironically, I had said it before in jest, but never really gave into the idea until real life set in and my perspective changed. I thought...why not? If Steve Harvey can do it, so can I. He had to overcome so much more than I did in my adult life and like so many others without a background in TV or journalism--he did it! So, I prayed about it and jumped on the path I feel God designed me to take. What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? I don't think I stand out more than others in my field. However, I don't feel like what I do is a job. It's way too fulfilling and I love every minute of it. It's a passion with purpose that requires a lot of work. It's not work done without any passion you call a "job". What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Mind your manners at all times. Don't burn bridges. Listen to the advice of those who have "been there and done that". Learn from their mistakes and their experiences! Social media is great if used appropriately. What you post is your brand and it follows you for life--even if you delete it! Study, stay focused and of course keep God first!!! What do you love most about being a woman? Wow! All things girly and feminine!!! We have so many things from glam to intuition to wisdom. We are delicate yet strong and the best multi-taskers in the world! We're the rib! Without a rib the meat has no support or protection--drop the mic! LOL What is your most memorable moment as a media personality? It actually just happened recently. I went through a divorce in 2006, moved the kids and I to Georgia for a year and of course was looking for a good church to join. My girlfriend urged me to visit her church where Eddie Long was. So, my brother was in town and he and I went to visit the church but only it wasn't Eddie Long preaching. It was Paula White! I lucked out--well let's call it favor and got a seat about 3 rows from the pulpit. The night before I had prayed and asked God to send me a sign and let me know if the kids and I were going to be ok. In a room filled with over a thousand people, Paula White said, "God gave me a word for someone in here today." She looked right at ME and said, "God said that everything is going to be ok. You're going to be all right." WHAT! So here we are 9 years later and I'm hosting an event for Women Vets Rock. I knew Paula White was the speaker but I thought someone else was introducing her. Nope! I was asked to introduce Paula White. Look at God. I had an opportunity to tell her how God used her that day and that she was right....I am better than ok. We serve an awesome God! There isn't a paycheck in the world that could give me the feeling I had at that moment. What is your least memorable moment as a media personality? I don't have one....maybe because it IS the least memorable. LOL....I guess that's a good thing. Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? Yes it's like many other fields. Many times you have to be clear that you're about business (for men especially) to take you seriously. But I have an awesome team of men at the station that help diffuse those instances before I'm ever approached. What is one thing many people do not know about you? My biggest fear for years into my adult life was public speaking!!! It kept me from running for offices and Miss Freshman in college. Now I LOVE it! Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? I'd be an indoor cat. They are fun, loving, fiesty...ahhh they use the restroom indoors in their own private bathroom. Most importantly, no one is trying to make a coat or some shoes out of their fur. Let's not forget, they always land on their feet! They're purrrr-fect. OK, that was corny . What does the future hold for you? I have 2 TV Shows in production and a radio show. I don't know what doors God will open from here, but I'm staying the course until He opens the next BIG door...His plan is so much better than mine! I can tell you, whatever it is He gives me, it will be great! Where can people find you? I can be reached on FB at "The Kim and Colby" show as well as "Kimberly J". On IG and Twitter, I can be reached at Iam_KmberlyJ. My website is www.IamKimberlyJ.com Emails can go to KimJ@IamKimberlyJ.com
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    Influenc-Her Profile Series| Dorian Johnson
    July 15, 2016
    Check out this wonderful interview with our latest Influenc-Her Dorian Johnson, you may know her as the Femme Focus. What is your name and what do you do? My name is Dorian Johnson and I am the Program Manager for the S.E.E.K (Social & Economic Empowerment Through Knowledge) Program at Building Blocks Services, LLC. Currently, the S.E.E.K program is preparing 18-24 year olds to become Certified Pharmacy Technicians. In addition, our students are gaining leadership development, workforce development skills, financial literacy, and other important competencies that will support them in the world of work and/or assist them in furthering their education. I absolutely love what I do because I am giving back to the community and building futures one skill at a time. In my spare time, I create digital content for my various social media outlets that focuses on Women’s Empowerment through my brand, The Femme Focus. Are  there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? I can’t say that there is a particular childhood experience that led me to where I am today, but I will say that overall life experiences have led me here. The good, the bad and the indifferent have made me into the woman I am today and for that I am thankful. I like to think of myself as an open book, and in being transparent, I am empowering and helping another girl/woman along life’s journey. No one should ever feel alone in what they go through. Sometimes all it takes is sharing your story that makes us relate to one another. How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? The name, The Femme Focus began back in 2009 as a segment on a Midday radio show titled, “D. Marie in the Midday,” that was hosted Monday through Friday, on WNSB 91.1, on the campus of Norfolk State University, in Norfolk, Virginia. The segment was used to give tips on life, finances, health, family, relationships, and overall positivity to the target audience of women that listened in. After studying mass communications in undergrad at Norfolk State University, I knew that I wanted to impact women on a more profound level, along with continuing my love for the media. I then decided to go back to school and on December 13, 2014, I conferred a Master of Arts degree in Urban Education with a focus on Urban Community Counseling. My passion comes from the journey my life has taken and is currently on. I love being a woman and want to empower other women to loves themselves just as they are. Who do you look to for inspiration? I find inspiration all around me. There isn’t a particular person or thing that inspires me. It can be something I read in a book or a conversation with a stranger that I have in the checkout line at the grocery store. What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? I stand apart in my field in that I’m not afraid to work with and empower women from every walk of life. I think we often forget about the women who aren’t where we are in life and that don’t have the same educational background or upbringing as ourselves. It’s not every day that we see those women as the target population in most of what people consider “women’s empowerment” these days. If we seek to empower one, then we must empower us all and not forget those who are often overlooked along the way. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? A piece of advice that I would give to young girls would be to never let anyone or anything stand in your way...including yourself. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy when it comes to self-doubt and low self-esteem. Challenge those thoughts in your head and SPEAK LIFE to your situations and circumstances. What do you love most about being a woman? What's not to love about being a woman? It’s hard to pick a favorite attribute when it comes to being a woman, so I’ll just say the mere fact that I was given the gift of being a woman is what I absolutely love most. What is one thing many people do not know about you? Hmmm...one thing people don’t know about me? People don’t know that in spite of me having been a radio personality and currently a YouTube content creator, I am an introvert. I like spending time with myself and being able to enjoy my own company. What is your most memorable moment as a Digital Content Creator? My most memorable moment as a digital content creator would be July 4, 2013 when I first launched my blog, thefemmefocus.com. Not only was it the official launch for my brand, but July 4th is also my birthday. What is your least memorable moment as a Digital Content Creator? My least memorable moment as a digital content creator would be the fact that you have to have tough skin in that you are making yourself vulnerable to the world in that they have the ability to critique your work and give their opinions about your content. This happens often, but I remember when I first started that this was something I had to definitely get used to. What does the word Feminist mean to you? The word feminist simply means being an advocate for women. Period. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? A lion for sure! A lion is KING of the jungle. I regard myself with the same esteem in everyday life. What does the future hold for you? That’s a great question. As far as what God has in store, well, that’s to be determined. I pray that my brand continues to grow and reaches the masses. I have quite a few things in store for the brand this year that I’m excited to launch. In the fall of this year I will begin classes at Old Dominion University for a graduate certificate in Women’s Studies. In 2018, I will begin my PhD in Women’s Studies at Texas Women’s University. Of course, I would love to have some sort of facility and/or program for young girls and women in the future. All of that is still being planned out though. 🙂 Where can people find you? YouTube | http://www.youtube.com/dorianmariej Website | http://www.thefemmefocus.com Email | thefemmefocus@gmail.com Instagram | http://instagram.com/the_femmefocus Twitter | http://twitter.com/the_femmefocus Facebook | http://www.facebook.com/thefemmefocus Podcast | https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/t... 'Empower Report' Newsletter Sign-Up | http://thefemmefocus.com/?page_id=568
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series| LexiWithTheCurls
    July 5, 2016
    What is your name and what do you do? Alexis Felder. I am the Digital Communications Manager at Bossip.com and founder of LexiWithTheCurls.com Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? As a teenager, I always knew I wanted to work in the Entertainment industry. I went to school in Atlanta so I could be close to all of the action and work on my goals. I was obsessed with TV shows and movies. I eventually ended up working in the television & film industry for 6 years before transitioning to digital media. How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? I literally got my job because I had my own blog. I was self taught and knew how to use Google Analytics, how to utilize and grow my social media, and what it takes to work with brands. From that passion behind my own blog, I was able to apply and get hired for a job in the Digital media field. Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? I work for a great company who started from just the small purchase of a URL to a multi-million dollar company. That is a ton of inspiration. It can happen to anyone with persistence, the right formula and the drive. In addition, I look to every single site as inspiration. It takes alot to put your life out there and it's inspirational to me the influencers that do this every day. Taking pictures everyday, writing posts every day, it's alot of work. What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? I think the difference with me and my blog is that I work for a huge site for a living. Most influencers either blog full time or have full-time jobs that aren't in their field. My career is in the same field essentially. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Be kind to everyone. Someone who is an assistant one day may run the company the next day. I have seen this happen so much. Even for me, people who treated me unkind back in the day, I will remember. People remember everything so be kind to everyone no matter what their title is or what they do. It's just a good thing to be nice in general. It get's you further in life. Also, give other people opportunities. If you have an opportunity and it's not for you, pass the info on to someone else. Be a blessing to someone. It will come back to you. I have had paid opportunities that while I needed the money, I didn't think I was a good fit and I would pass the opportunity to another influencer. We can all work together and don't need to hate on the next person. Last one, make sure your career makes you happy. When I was working in television, I was working 12 hours minimum daily, 5 days a week. That is a lot and it takes a toll on your mind and body. I gained alot of weight and I had no personal life because I was always working. I was making great money in television, but it was so worth it for me to switch careers and actually get home before the sun goes down and not have to be on my feet for 12 hours. Go for what makes you happy and comfortable. What do you love most about being a woman? I love that women are both professional and sensitive. I think you need both in every business. You need to have compassion, but at the same time, get business done. What is your most memorable moment as a Digital Marketer and Youtube Vlogger? My most memorable moment would be getting a job in a field that I am passionate about. My Marketing background from college and my experience running my own site gave me the drive and experience to work for a website that has a huge following. What is your least memorable moment as a Digital Marketer and Youtube Vlogger? When I first started, I used to be in the mix too much with the blogger drama. It was so new and at the time everyone talked about everyone. Remember, anything you say or write on the internet can and will come back to haunt you. Also, on Youtube, people don't care about your feelings. They will say mean things so you have to let it roll off your shoulders. Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? In the digital marketing field I haven't experienced any issues. When I worked in the television field, I had so many issues with guys. Anytime I had a problem on the job, it would be with men. Generally a male upset that I had a higher title than them, or that I was making more money than them, or they just had problems with me in general. It turned into a couple of bad experiences for me. What is one thing many people do not know about you? Most people won't know that I am actually shy in real life. I've heard some people say that I wasn't that friendly, but in actuality, I'm just shy. If I don't know you, I'm probably not going to walk up to you, introduce myself, and have a conversation with you. People assume I am an extrovert by my social media. Remember, social media is what everyone wants people to see of you. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? I would be a chameleon. I would love to adapt to every situation and person. Having great interpersonal skills and being able to get along with every type of person is a true skill and something I always strive for. What does the future hold for you? I have no idea. I would love to expand at my job and do alot more on the business side. Maybe even doing sales and working with brands. Where can people find you? You can find me at LexiWithTheCurls.com and FB/IG LexiWithTheCurls Twitter: CurlyGirlLexi and Snapchat: Lexiwiththecurl (no 's') I rarely snap but I am trying to get with it.
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    Influenc-HER Profile|RoxyGrey
    June 29, 2016
    Check out our interview with the wonderful RoxyGrey, she is a Marketing Specialist as well as a mentor and advisor. Read more about how her genuine love and passion for people ultimately turned into her becoming the creative genius she is today and today's Influenc-HER!!! What is your name and what do you do?   My name is Melicia, but many know me as RoxyGrey.  I am a marketing specialist and advisor/mentor. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today?   I've just always been a people-person.  My Mom told me I was never one of those loud kids, but that I would run down the aisles in church and just silently wave and smile at people (lol).  I've always been so drawn to people and the way we interact with one another, and how we can help each other. Where did your passion for Marketing come from? I didn't actually realize I wanted to be in marketing until a few years ago.  All I knew was that I have a passion for people, I love being creative, and that I have a knack for networking and connecting people.  Many people started coming to me for branding advice and that's when it hit me, like this is what I want to do.  I believe in the people and the brands that I've worked with (and still work with), and I want them to succeed.  So I create marketing plans and help lead them in the right direction.  My joy and passion comes from catalyzing one's dream into reality. Who are some of your favorite clients you've worked with or interviewed? Hands down, Gene aka No Malice.  He's such a great person to be around and he's been a spiritual mentor to me over the years.  He's so creative and has all the ideas, yet he stays so grounded and keeps it 100, always. Favorite person I've interviewed would have to be Greg Selkoe, Former CEO & Founder of Karmaloop.  I remember interviewing him about 3 years ago (http://roxygrey.com/post/31983395782/rg-exclusive-greg-selkoe-interview), and then going to Richmond months after to watch his speech at VCU.  I was sitting in the third row, and he was in the middle of his speech, when he looked at me and said, "Hey!  There's Roxy!"  (Mind you, we've never met before that.)  Ever since then, we've remained in contact.  His whole mindset is amazing, and I'm so excited to see what he has in store for us with Curateurs and all his ventures. And my favorite person I'm currently working with is Rob Hill, Sr.  I am soooooo blessed beyond words to be working with him on a project that will launch later this year.  A few months ago, he told me that he wanted to have an event to help raise money for teachers, but he didn't know if it would happen.  And then just a couple of weeks ago, I met with him and he was a little sad and said, "I don't think it'll happen with everything that's going on."  I looked at him, and said, "Oh no.  We're going to make this happen."  The look on his face and the joy in his smile were priceless; and he's been on this project since.  Just being around such an influential and peaceful person like Rob has been such a blessing in my Life.  Being able to vent and talk about creative issues with someone who understands where I'm coming from has helped me grow in so many ways. Who do you look to for inspiration? I actually look to my friends for inspiration.  They've believed in me since Day One; and on the days that I'm feeling overwhelmed, they check me.  They push me.  They make sure that I'm always on the right track.  I love them sooooo much and we inspire each other.  <3 What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are?   Work hard.  Be genuine & upfront; stay true to what you believe in.  Be nice.  And ALWAYS have Purpose in everything that you do. What do you love most about being a woman? Being underestimated.  For the most part, we women are still underestimated in everything that we do, but people forget that WE ARE BUILT FOR THIS.  Women are built to birth another human being, for Heaven's sake.  We are naturally-born superheroes, and both men and women tend to forget that.  I absolutely enjoy and love being a woman.  Our lives are so unexplainable, and I continue to surprise myself.  <3 What is the key to finding balance in your personal and professional life?   PRIORITIZING.  I have a calendar (in addition to the one of my phone) that I carry everywhere with me.  I color code my days so I know what I'm doing for work, school, and my personal Life.  Trust me, I still have my days where I struggle with balancing, especially since I can get sidetracked and/or be so heavily engulfed in work projects.  These past few months have actually been a test of balance for me.  I also schedule some quality time about twice a month for myself, like massages and getting my nails done.  When I started grad school, one of my best friends got me a "school" journal, where I'm only allowed to write about school and whenever I'm frustrated or feeling like I'm overwhelmed.  Writing always balances my emotions.  🙂 We know you love to travel, what has been your favorite place to visit thus far? Hands down, Venice, Italy.  I loved everything about it - the food, the people, the beaches, the sites.  Venice is such a beautiful place... and the most interesting part about it: They live on water.  I love it.  I would totally go back. What is one thing many people do not know about you?   I'm a good chess player.  (Or I like to think I'm one.) 😉 Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why?   An elephant, my favorite animal.  An elephant doesn't have to announce its presence in a room by roaring or being obnoxious.  It just walks in, big and full of humility, kindness, and Love. What does the future hold for you?   In the near future, more collaborations with really great creatives, and more events!  🙂 Where can people find you?   Instagram: @roxygrey / Twitter: @roxygrey / roxygreytoday@gmail.com
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series: Sabrina Vaz Holder
    June 24, 2016
    What is your name and what do you do? Sabrina Vaz-Holder, I am a photographer, co-owner of Medium PR Agency with my husband Quinelle Holder, and producer at Sirius XM Satellite Radio. Where are you from? I grew up overseas in various countries (philippines, israel, argentina, egypt, thailand) and ended up in Virginia/DC.   What childhood experiences lead you to where you are today? Playing with my dad's cameras, making home movies and taking instant photos. How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? I started doing videos again, professionally in 2011. I filmed an interview with Kendrick Lamar at Hampton University, and started taking photos again for local artists, concerts, and festivals. I've had the passion since I was a child, but it came back after my husband (boyfriend at the time) and I started working together and getting more involved in the music/entertainment industry. Jadakiss' Top 5 Dead or Alive Tour that kicked off in Baltimore, MD. Chris Rivers (Big Pun's Son), and Famey (Artist out of Philly) open up for the legend. Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? My mom (who is also an entrepreneur), my husband and Aviva Klein (photographer based in NYC). What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? My shooting style (angles, lighting, editing), and the bonds I create with my clients and people/brands I work with. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Work hard, stay focused, and inspire others. Also, work smarter - not harder. What do you love most about being a woman? Being able to multi task and pay attention to detail.   I traveled to NYC to see Iman Europe and follow her around the city.   What is your favorite camera to shoot with? Canon EOS 60D and 7D What is your most memorable moment as a photographer? Personally taking photos for Jadakiss, at his Top 5 Dead or Alive tour, meeting Kendrick Lamar while interviewing him, and having my photos published on SaintHeron.com, vibemag.com, and hypetrak.com What is your least memorable moment as a photographer? Shooting for corporate gigs. What is one thing people would not know about you? I can't say 🙂 Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? A wolf because they travel in packs. I love connecting with other creatives and feeding off their creative/positive energy. Do you feel there are any restrictions being a woman in photography? There are only restrictions if you allow it. In this male dominated industry, we will always be mocked, sexually harassed, judged, not taken seriously...but that does not stop me, and I demand (and earn) respect through my work. Fool's Gold Day Off in Brooklyn, NY for KarenCivil.com   What does the future hold for you? I plan to shoot for the cover of FADER, be a well known photographer for other well known music artists and public figures. Where can people find you? www.sabrinavazholder.com IG/Twitter: @sabrinafvholder Snapchat: sabrinafvh Facebook:www.facebook.com/sabrinavazholder      Copyright: Mental Mayhem took the profile picture on social media and website **
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series: Jomanda
    June 22, 2016
    What is your name and what do you do? I go by Jomanda / Froxstarr. I'm a visual artist,  DJ, and lightworker here to save the planet! Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? My entire life has led me here, I believe everything happens for a reason. I moved a lot growing up and was super shy and timid but I feel every encounter and experience has given me the strength to fully believe in myself and chase my dreams. How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? I got started Dj-ing in 13' when my bf at the time taught me how to use the equipment. It was exciting and nerve-wracking all at the same time but I was eager to learn because I feel like I've always done it in my head as a kid. From mixing and blending songs together and knowing the words to every hip-hop or reggae song that came up next. My entire family is music enthusiasts, come from a beautiful little island called Trinidad & Tobago so it's in my blood.   Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? I pull inspiration from several different directions, my peers, artists, my family, nature. Theres something different you can learn from everyone and their creations, whatever it may be and however it was made. What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? I think what makes me stand out is my high level of energy and the way I dip and dabble in different genres, but most importantly staying true to myself. I smile excessively, laugh when I mess up, jump off the stage and start dancing when I play my favorite song, I'm really just a bundle of joy when I'm in my zone.   What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Stay true to you and follow your intuition! Take advice from others with a grain of pink Himalayan salt. You know what excites you the most and you know your strengths in serving up love for the world. What do you love most about being a woman? I love being emotional. That sounds like a femme weakness but being empathetic is truly a gift and also being able to carry life! I think that's truly the most amazing part. What is your most memorable moment as a DJ? My most memorable moment was when I Dj'd a Fantastic Planet event, Halloween 15' w/ Va$htie + many others. I've always looked up to her in particular so it was almost like a dream. My set was actually pretty tight too lol. What is your least memorable moment as DJ? My least memorable moment was a night Future came to town and I had noooo idea. My event literally had about 10 people so we ended up closing early haha. But I still had a good time. Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? Being a woman in this field it's easy to get taken advantage of, but as long as you know who you are and your worth it's easier to speak up for yourself because you are the best representative of your brand. What is one thing many people do not know about you? Many people don't know that I have a very deep, analytical, + philosophical side of me that's bloomed over time. I'll eventually incorporate them into my paintings once I put everything together. But I really want to write a book one day, so far I've started a quote book or journal you can say.     Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? If I can be any animal I'd say an owl. That's my spirit animal. Very observant, nocturnal, sooooaring throughout the midnight sky. What does the future hold for you? The future can hold many things, come along for the ride! Initiatives I've been apart of: Chrysler Museum Work Release VA Opera House Fantastic Planet Sky Bar Granby Theater The Norva The Parlor on Granby Where can people find you? You can follow me on twitter @djfroxstarr // instagram @jofroxx // snapchat @froxstarr FROXSTARR.COM
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series: Claire Yanta O'Mahoney
    June 20, 2016
    What is your name and what do you do? I’m Claire Yanta-O’Mahoney, Founder + Trainer of Fleur de Lis Fitness which offers personal training, small group training, and healthy lifestyle nutrition coaching to clients locally, live online via Skype/FaceTime, and on-demand personalized YouTube workouts.  Basically, I can train you no matter where you are 🙂 Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today?  My parents raised my brother, sister, and me in a very active household where we participated in our favorite sports, cooked often at home, indulged often but didn’t overindulge, and tried new foods.  I don't recall my parents warning us to think about the calories in foods, trying to work off rich treats, or feeling like we needed to be aware of our weight.  Instead, we practiced mindfulness eating and this is something we continue today. How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? Fitness, nutrition, and health were always topics that I researched, talked about, and wanted to be involved in for as long as I can remember.  When I decided that I wanted to have a stronger positive influence on others, it became apparent to me (and to many others) that I should step away from corporate America and pursue my dreams.  With the encouragement of my husband, parents, siblings, and friends, Fleur de Lis Fitness was born.  My passion came from the desire to connect with others and make a difference in their lives for the better. Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? I love when clients tell me that they haven’t felt this good in years, or they’ve never felt this good.  Hearing that positive praise is music to my ears! What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? I take a very balanced approach to fitness, nutrition, and health.  Many people view things from the “light switch” perspective, either they’re on the wagon doing everything perfectly or they’re completely off it, feeling stuck in a more negative space.  I like to teach my clients how to practice discipline but still enjoy themselves.     What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? Believe in yourself, seek advice and support from those you trust, and keep moving forward.  The hardest part is getting started. What do you love most about being a woman? I love how I feel….strong, feminine, capable, soft, empathetic….as a woman I think we are allowed to feel and personify more emotions than men.  One day I hope men are as free as we are! What is your most memorable moment as a personal trainer? When my very first client told me that she noticed muscle tone, more energy, better sleep, and a better overall sense of self.  That was a memorable and winning feeling!   What is your least memorable moment as a personal trainer? When a client told me she had hit a plateau.  Instead of calling it a day and throwing in the towel, we discussed what she did the other 23 hours of the day when she wasn’t training with me, including getting detailed about her eating habits.  By identifying areas that could be improved upon, she made some little changes that resulted in success.  She now looks and feels better than ever! Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? I hate to admit it, but I struggle with the cliché of the female personal trainer.  There are many of us out there, but most of us have worked hard, are educated, and care deeply about our clients’ success. What is one thing many people do not know about you? There’s a very quiet side to me.  I can be really bubbly, energetic, and talkative, but I also enjoy having time alone, whether that include reading, cooking, errands, or beach time.  I’ve dabbled in meditation and want to get more into it!  It’s all about balance, a mix of energetic and low-key 🙂 Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? I would be a bird because one of my favorite things is seeing the world from above.  Everything is instantly beautiful!  Plus traffic would be an non-issue 🙂 What does the future hold for you? The ability to reach more clients and help them feel their best through more robust training programs.     Where can people find you? Social media: facebook.com/fleurdelisfitness instagram: @fleurdelisfitness snapchat: Claire Y-O, fdlfitness Website: fdlfitness.com    
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    Influenc-Her Profile Series: Nina Walker
    June 17, 2016
    What is your name and what do you do? My name is Nina and I film YouTube videos about natural hair and comedy Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? One of the most effective childhood experiences is when I joined social media because I found a place where my voice could be heard   What is the key to the perfect twist out in the summer time? The key to a perfect twist out in the summer time is use products that are extremely moisturizing because the sun can easily dry out your hair and use a product the consistency of a gel for hold and to fight against humidity Who do you look to for inspiration? I look to YouTubers like Nia Imani and Sun kiss Alba because I like to use their videos as models of what I want my channel's quality to be like. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? A tangible piece of advice I would give to young girls who would like to be where I am is don't let anyone stop you from doing what you feel is right and learn to love yourself as you are       What do you love most about being a woman? As a woman I love that I can have a voice and not be ignored or disregarded What is your most memorable moment as a Vlogger? My most memorable moment as a Vlogger is when I'm  walking around in public talking to my camera and people give me some of the funniest looks What is your favorite subject to photograph? I love to photograph people laughing because genuine smiles are the best in my opinion   What is one thing many people do not know about you? Many people do not know that I am a product junkie (unless they are close friends) Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? If I could be any animal I would be a pug because they always seem extremely happy and carefree What does the future hold for you? In the near future I will hopefully learn a lot more about photography and video editing Where can people find you? People can find me on YouTube and Instagram @itsNinaRay
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    Influenc-Her Profile Series: Kristin Coral
    June 15, 2016
    What is your name and what do you do? Kristin Coral. I am an actress/model and the co-host of the R&B podcast "Red Light Special" with Rob Markman. We just ended the podcast and now I am working on a new visual project.     Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? As a child, I was a bit of a tomboy. I actually had dreams of becoming a doctor, but I was so obsessed with being outdoors and doing fun things that I became lazy about everything else. How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? I got started by modeling clothing lines for friends. As my photos got around, I started getting approached to host interviews and do on-camera work. Acting and Hollywood always seemed impossible, but at one point I decided to take an acting class with Ilene Starger and she had told me that I was a natural and should continue with acting as a career. So, I continue to take classes and workshops and do background work/short films and create my own content on YouTube. My passion has always come from storytelling and feelings. Films do that, they allow you to access feelings you didn't know were there. Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? Gina Rodriguez, Viola Davis and Leonardo Dicaprio. Gina and Viola have shown women in television and film what it means to break boundaries-they give us a new perspective on what can be achieved. Leonardo has been sitting on a lifetime of success and has always remained humble and PATIENT. He deviates from any cliché about actors. What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? What makes me stand out is my work ethic. I give my all in everything that I do and I never make excuses. The first thing you have to be willing to do in order to make it in this industry is show up. The rest all falls into place.     What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? My only advice, and the most important, is to believe that you CAN. Many people will tell you that your dreams are too big. Sometimes you will feel like you're not where you expected to be. None of that matters if you just keep believing that you can and will make your dreams come true. Put in the work, because there are other people out there who may not be as good as you, but they may want it more and that's where you'll end up taking the backseat. Always be in control. What do you love most about being a woman? What I love most about being a woman is being underestimated. I love being the underdog. I know I can walk into any room and leave a good impression, whether I book the job or not. What is your most memorable moment as an Actress, Model and Co-Host? My most memorable moment would have to be interviewing Monica. I grew up on her music and have always been inspired by her. I would've never thought that, years later, I'd have her thanking me for doing what I do for the music industry, especially R&B.     What is your least memorable moment as an Actress, Model and Co-Host? My least memorable moment would have to be working with a photographer who never gave me my images. This industry can be shady like that sometimes, but you learn from it. Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? Of course there are struggles being a woman. Half of the time, men get in contact with you to work but their actions show different intentions. You just have to be strong and confident and know how to put your foot down, sometimes even manipulate your way around it. What is one thing many people do not know about you? Many people don't think I have an emotional side. That is why I fell in love with acting. Anthony Meindl was the first person to help me put my guard down and open up in scene work. It's amazing when you let go and let things happen. That's where the magic is. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? I would be a Scorpion. My zodiac sign is Scorpio, and I love the traits we carry: observant, manipulative, intense, passionate and FIERCE! What does the future hold for you? The future holds a lifetime of traveling, acting and discoveries. Life is what you make it. I live mine very spontaneously and openly. Where can people find you? Instagram: krislovaa
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series|Chivon Ferguson
    June 13, 2016
    Today we release our interview with the amazing Chivon Ferguson. Chivon shares with us the reason she founded her organization, Pretty Girl Problems and sheds light on issues every woman faces but rarely discusses. This North Carolina Central University alumna reflects on childhood memories that have helped shaped the brand into what it is today. What is your name and what do you do? My name is Chivon Ferguson and I am the founder of Pretty Girl Problems; a life skills training program with an emphasis on character building, leadership development and tech advancement for girls. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? At the time I started Pretty Girl Problems I didn't have a clear understanding that my childhood, mainly middle and high school years, shaped what was to come of the brand. As I talked to more girls and young women I realized I wish I had someone like me when I was their age to help me avoid some of the challenges I faced in the areas of self worth and goal setting. How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? Pretty Girl Problems started honestly as a hashtag, lol. I use to have that "I don't feel pretty but I want to be on IG" syndrome, so whenever I posted a picture I would use the hashtag #prettygirlproblems to explain away not "looking/feeling" so pretty. At the time I was still working in branding and artist management in the music industry. I realized there were so few women behind the scenes in music, yet we did very little together in terms of supporting one another. From there I reached out to a few women I knew in the industry and we all met at Bossip's office for a little "girl talk" about support. I filmed the experience and it went viral within days. People responded positively to the name and it took off from there; I've been catching up to it ever since. As the brand grew, so to did my vision for the brand. With a bit of trial and error I realized Pretty Girl Problems was meant to move girls from where they where as young women to where they could be as grown women.  The passion came from a burning desire to truly have women build themselves up first, then come together to create amazing things together. What is the mission of Pretty Girl Problems? The mission of Pretty Girl Problems is to create a supportive community of girls and young women who embody strength of character, advanced leadership skills and business intelligence. It is my goal to dispel the myth that women can't work together, live together start businesses together or be educated together without drama or competition. Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? I look at the girls I've helped and especially the ones I haven't yet helped. I look at the grown women who publicly belittle themselves and one another without pause. I look at all the negativity associated with being a woman and it fuels me to give girls the tools necessary to bypass the potential pitfalls early.  To be completely transparent, I look at my life. I recall the days I didn't like or love myself and the days I settled for far less than I was capable of and it drives me. What makes you stand a part from everyone else in your field? To be quite honest there isn't much that sets me a part. Here's the thing, we're all having the same human experience on earth. I'm saying the things that many girls and women are feeling and it's evident by the response to my messages and teachings.  The one slight difference is that I have a platform from which I deliver my message. I create every piece of my content based on real life, so there is little uniqueness from one experience to the next. I am grateful that I have been chosen to deliver this message at this time. I am grateful that my delivery and methodology resonates with others. Being a servant leader is an amazing position that I humbly accept. What do you love most about being a woman? OMG...what's not to love about being a woman? We literally are the carriers of life. Like our real live super power is growing humans. How amazing is that? It makes us automatic creative beings, meaning whatever you desire to make happen in your life the power to do already exists in you. That is what I love most about being a woman! What is your most memorable moment as the Founder of Pretty Girl Problems? My most memorable moment as founder of Pretty Girl was speaking at my Alma Mater, North Carolina Central University. It was a surreal moment, that 10 years post graduation I was able to come back and impart something into the women of campus. The greatest part was connecting with young women that used words like inspiring and motivational. By far the best day of my journey yet. What is your least memorable moment as the Founder of Pretty Girl Problems? You know this question is hard for me. There have been many brick walls and obstacle but to point out the least memorable is difficult. Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? My girls is geared towards women, so for me it's pretty awesome! What is one thing many people do not know about you? I love the outdoors, especially the beach. Any opportunity I have to be outside is one I gladly accept! Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? If I could be any animal I would probably be a bird because the idea of flying fascinates me. The funny thing is that I absolutely cannot stand birds in real life LOL. What does the future hold for you? The future? Wow! I'm so excited for the future amazing things await me there, marriage, children and international Pretty Girl Problems initiatives. Right now however the present has me over the moon. I'm loving this season I'm in and I'm so very grateful for its everyday blessings. Where can people find you and how does one get involved in your organization? People can find me online at www.theprettygirlproblem.com on IG @chivonsworld and @theprettygirlsproblem To get involved people can email us at info@theprettygirlproblem.com
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series: Makeup Artist Markieta Britt
    June 8, 2016
      For our most recent Influenc-HER Profile series we were fortunate enough to learn more about the inspiring Makeup Artist and developer of a new skin care line, Markieta Britt. We were able to find out more about her background and her experiences at a younger age, as they truly shaped her into the woman she is today. Take a look at her profile below to see what inspired her to become a strong, talented and influential woman in her career!   What is your name and what do you do? I'm Markieta Britt, a professional makeup artist and creator/developer of an up and coming natural skincare line. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? My earliest inspiration came from my grandmother, Hattie Mae. She pushed me to be the selfless, giving, creative and self-made woman I am today. How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? In 2004 my grandmother was diagnosed with brain cancer. Due to extensive chemo/radiation, every skin product she used aggravated her skin in a horrible way. After being unsuccessful in finding products to soothe and nurture her sensitive skin, I decided to develop my own. My grandmother's cancer was the start to the rest of my life! In order to fully understand skin types and how products affect certain people, I studied extensively and started my makeup artist career with MAC Cosmetics. Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? Celebrity makeup artist, Valente Frazier, was the perfect person to gain inspiration and knowledge from. The highlight of my career was watching Valente work his magic through makeup! He created a beautiful, glamorous look that left me in complete shock. I couldn't believe I was sitting in the same room with an artist I've looked up to for years. He poured life into my career and future as a beauty professional. Thanks, Valente! I've been told "That's not a good idea", "No one will support you" and "You're not good enough!" These words have been ammunition to excel me to the finish line.   What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? To stand out from other makeup artists, I decided to learn more from the best in the industry. My goal was to perfect the makeup application to achieve clean, flawless looks without the appearance of heavy makeup. What tangible piece of advice would you give any young girls who want to be where you are? My advice to the young women of the world is to stay focused! Life is full of curves, highs and lows. Don't allow the rough patches of life to alter the dreams and goals you have for yourself. Keep your circle small and full of those who support and love you.  What do you love most about being a woman? I am loving and sensitive, I'm faithful and determined, I'm strong and self-sufficient, I love being a woman!  Do you feel there are any restrictions being a woman in the beauty industry? The beauty industry is full of opportunities for entrepreneur women! The goal is to keep pushing thru and stay focused on your dream. I've been told "That's not a good idea", "No one will support you" and "You're not good enough!" These words have been ammunition to excel me to the finish line.  What is one thing many people do not know about you? One thing many people don't know about me is my love for jazz. I collect vinyl records from Miles, Contrane, Mendes and many more. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? If I could be any animal I would be a bird, to view life on an elevated level. What does the future hold for you? My future is full of opportunity and a multitude of overflowing blessings! The launch of my skincare line will not only be a major milestone for me but a blessing to those around me. I'm so excited! Suebaby Beauty will be coming soon!   Where can people find you? Instagram: @kietarenee Inquiries for services: iluvsuebaby@gmail.com
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    Influenc-Her Profile Series: Christina Kanu
    June 6, 2016
    We were able to sit down with Leadership Consultant Christina Kanu, to discuss her dreams, work ethic, and passion to help others evolve. She is currently based in Atlanta, Georgia, has a host of clients and recently became a campaign manager on a highly publicized political trail. Christina stays in constant action as she is also in graduate school and presents frequently at conferences nationwide. What is your name and what do you do? My name is Christina Kanu affectionately known as Miss Kanu. I am the CEO of Christina Kanu Consulting LLC and I am a graduate student at Clark Atlanta University in the Master’s in African American Studies. I am a daughter, sister, friend, mentor, consultant, diva, lover of all things fabulous, and woman with a faith that God can do it ALL. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? When I was graduating high school the Assistant Principal at my school Mr. Terrence Yarborough told me that I was an inspiration to the younger girls and that I needed to continue to do what I was doing. I remember being 18 years old and thinking oh my. People had always made fun of me about everything. From the way I dressed, talked, acted, and everything in between. I was always too happy and too loud. The fact that he believed I was an inspiration forced me to walk in that path. I have not looked back since. I live my life as an example to inspire others to achieve. How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? I never knew that I would own a company by the time I was 25. That was never a part of my vision. I have always loved helping people from the time I was little. My parents always told me that I always wanted to help everyone do everything. In elementary school if we had a new student I wanted to show them around the school. In high school I was in the Student Government Association as well as a football and soccer manager. In college I became President of many organizations which allowed me to teach and develop new leaders. People were always asking me for help with events, initiatives, or with their own personal development as a person. I officially launched my company Christina Kanu Consulting LLC in 2016 but the vision for the company came from God in 2014. CKC provides consulting services for individuals, business owners, nonprofits, politicians, events, and more. I work with a variety of clients and every single day is different. I am grateful that every day I get to change the world and bring joy and excellence into the lives of each of my clients. Who do you look to for inspiration to keep going? My inspiration to keep going comes from all of the strong Black women in my life. Black women have experienced so much historically and STILL continue to run the world. I never have to look far for inspiration. From my mother Serwah Kanu to all of the women who have shaped me I am eternally grateful. They have taught me, corrected me, loved me, scolded me, and pushed me. Every single day I do what I do for this collective group of women who always confirmed that Black Girl Magic is REAL. What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? My consulting firm Christina Kanu Consulting LLC in excellence at every level. I make sure that every client feels special from our first consultation forward. I am adamant about making sure that my clients are happy and do not just feel like another client to me. My company is there to celebrate the good times as well as support in the hard times. It is rare that you find people who believe in you and your dreams. CKC serves as a catalyst for dreams and dream chasers 365 days a year (366 in a leap year). What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? The best piece of advice I can give to all of the amazing young girls is to be around people who love you for you. People who make you feel anything less than are not people you need in your life. Period Mark. It is so important to have a collective group of girlfriends who love you, cheer for you, cry with you, and support you. The people closest to me have always understood how ambitious I am. They understand that my planner is my best friend and that I cannot always go to dinner or on vacation because I am constantly busy. However, they still love me and are my support system. You need people like that during your journey to success. What do you love most about being a woman? There is nothing like the love a woman can give. My love for the people in my life is unconditional. It amazes me how my love for people produces a cathartic experience in their life. People always talk about my “Christina Hugs” or how my energy lights up the room. This makes me happy because everything I do is in love. From the long emotional text messages I send people or how I will travel near and far to be there for the people in my life. I love the ability to love freely in all situations. What’s the theme song to your life? I love this question! I would have to select two. The first is “Diva” by Beyoncé. I have always been a Diva since birth. My definition of a Diva is a woman who is confident, sexy in her own way, ambitious, hardworking, and is a BOSS. Whenever I am feeling off I listen to “Diva” and I feel like myself again. I have a tattoo on my right ankle that says “Diva”. My second theme song is “Take Me as I Am” by Mary J. Blige. When I was younger I did not understand why people did not accept me. The words in this song always affirmed me. I accepted that it is ok to be unique in a world where everyone wants to be the same. Both of these songs always allow me to sing or dance my heart out in the mirror. They take me to a very happy place. What is your most memorable moment as a consultant? This is a really difficult question because I have had so many dynamic experiences. I think the day I officially received my LLC paperwork was the most memorable moment. I remember looking at the document and thinking “Oh my God this is real I am a CEO”. I knew that in that very moment I did something that most people never do and that I would be helping to inspire more girls who look like me to chase after their dreams in spite of every obstacle that is placed in their life. What is your least memorable moment as a consultant? My least memorable moment would be when people do not take my time as a consultant seriously. I have to remind people that this is a business and not a hobby. Time is money and money is time. I try and teach those who I mentor to always respect people’s time. If you have a meeting with a person respect that time. If someone says 2:00 PM that means 2:00 PM not whenever I feel like it. I really hate time that is wasted as a result of someone else failing to plan. Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? People do not always want to take the things that I am serious because I am a woman. In business settings people still find it easier to accept what a man says versus a woman. I come from a family of strong women. I will always create a space for myself at the table no matter who is in the room. It takes a lot of confidence to do that and I try to sprinkle confidence seeds in the lives of all the women I meet. It can be challenging but it is imperative. Women’s voices matter! "I will always create a space for myself at the table no matter who is in the room."  What is one thing many people do not know about you? Only people closest to me know how much I love snacks. I do not leave the house without snacks in my purse. I have been to black tie events and will find a way to sneak a snack in my clutch. I remember attending the BET Hip Hop Awards and the United Negro College Fund an Evening of Stars event and having fruit snacks in my clutch. When I am hungry I am not nice.  If you could be any animal what would it be and why? If I could be an animal I would be a ladybug. Ladybugs are lucky and bring joy into the lives of people. I love bringing joy into the lives of others. What does the future hold for you? I will be finishing my Master’s Degree in May 2017 and looking to pursue my Ph.D in 2017. I told myself I would go straight through from Kindergarten to Doctoral Degree. I would like to continue to expand Christina Kanu Consulting LLC and work with even more exciting people. I want to travel more and continue to seek happiness daily. Marriage and children are on my mind but I am not in a rush. I am enjoying my 20s and my exciting journey. In the words of Drake “Welcome to my life no two days are the same”. Where can people find you? You can follow my journey on Instagram and Twitter @MissKanu. Be sure to search the hashtag #MissKanuMessages for my messages about life, happiness, business, and being the best you that you can be. Or you can visit my website www.christinakanu.com For business inquiries, speaking engagements, or questions you can reach me at Info@ChristinaKanu.com    
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series: Chef Rosecleer-Marie
    June 2, 2016
    For the latest Influenc-HER Profile Series, we have Atlanta Personal Chef/ Food Stylist and Cutthroat Kitchen contestant, Rosecleer-Marie.  Check out the profile below to see how she got started, what it's like being a woman in the culinary industry and more. What is your name and what do you do? Rosecleer-Marie/ Personal Chef and Food Stylist Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? Pursuing a culinary career was a career switch, but I grew up watching my grandmother cook and helping her out in the kitchen, I was always a foodie! How did you get started in your current field today? And where did that passion come from? I was at a job that left me unfulfilled and extremely unhappy, with that weighing on me, it forces you to do some soul searching to find what it is that you truly enjoy, what really moves you and for me that was food. I would always watch Food Network and cook cool things once I was home from the job I hated! So I said to myself, why can't I make this a career?! I quit my job and enrolled in Culinary School full time....The rest is history. Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? I look to my mom and family as inspiration to keep going, to continue to make them proud. I look to my past and all that I have done, the building blocks I have built to succeed and because of that I have to keep going! What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? I think what makes me stand apart from others in my field is that I am a Black Female Chef truly self made, but what is even more rare is being a Black Female Food Stylist..I only know of ONE other! What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? I would say to young girls, if you have a goal in mind, to set strategic steps to attack and accomplish it. A goal without a plan is just a dream! Doors will close, sometimes you will have to go create your own door or go through a window! What do you love most about being a woman? I love the versatility, chameleon like ability of being a woman. From being a kick-ass super woman, taking over the world to child birth, to being sensitive and soft. What is your most memorable moment as a Personal Chef and Food Stylist? My most memorable moment as a Personal Chef is not actually cooking for anyone but being a contestant on an episode of Food Networks Cutthroat Kitchen! Best experience! As a food stylist my best experience was styling on my independent project for a hot local restaurant in Atlanta called Suite Lounge, with my fiance as the photographer. "I Love The Versatility, Chameleon Like Ability Of Being A Woman" What is your least memorable moment as a Personal Chef and Food Stylist? I would have to compile some my lease memorable moments as a Personal Chef: clients/guests who do not appreciate your work or value what you are worth. Food styling is so awesome there are not really any downsides, for me it would be the early call times for photo shoots! Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? Yes, the biggest struggle is naturally people don't believe you or believe IN you. I get asked all of the time "YOUR a chef??" What is one thing many people do not know about you? One thing many people do not know about me is that I am a Sci-Fi nerd! Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? A bird, so I can soar! What does the future hold for you? The future is unwritten but what I would like to see is more art, more financial freedom and more business expansions.   Where can people find you? People can find me in Atlanta, GA but available for domestic & international travel. http://www.chefrosecleermarie.com/ IG: @chefrosecleermarie
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    Influenc-HER Profile Series: Lydia Critchfield
    May 31, 2016
    What is your name and what do you do? My name is Lydia Critchfield, and I am a rising senior at Virginia Commonwealth University majoring in fashion design and minoring in general business. Are there any childhood experiences that led you to where you are today? I remember using sewing machines as early as 3rd or 4th grade, and I was drawing designs regularly by 5th grade.  I had always been interested in fashion, so I knew from a very young age that fashion design was the career for me.  I particularly remember really liking the show That’s So Raven,and she made a lot of her own clothes, which I thought was awesome.  I’ve been interested in all aspects of art growing up, and always did as many crafts as I could get my hands on.  I knew I needed a career that allowed me to be creative so that I would enjoy working.  After being accepted into Virginia Commonwealth University’s art department, I couldn’t wait to begin fashion classes sophomore year.  Being accepted into and studying in the fashion department has been the best learning experience.  I don’t think I would ever hope to have a successful career without the skills and knowledge that I’ve been taught at VCU. Who do you look at as inspiration to keep going? To keep me going and inspired, I look to both established designers that I like and my fellow classmates.  My favorite designer is Monique Lhuillier, so following what she’s working on encourages me to keep going so that I can be in her place one day.  My classmates also inspire me to work harder.  We all push each other to do our best, and encourage each other when we’re feeling down.  Having a group of peers around me to keep me positive and help me stay on track toward my goals is the most important thing to keep me motivated. What makes you stand apart from everyone else in your field? It’s pretty hard to stand out in a field of work that includes so many talented, unique, and creative people, but I think one thing that sets me apart from the masses is my eagerness.  I get so excited about what I do, and that passion comes through in my work ethic and the things I make.  I’m a bit of a perfectionist, but I still love to have fun. I like for my illustrations and clothes to be vibrant.  I think adding a serious effort to exciting garments sets me apart from others in my field. What tangible piece of advice would you give young girls who want to be where you are? I would tell young girls to choose their careers based on what they’re passionate about, rather than just practicality.   I am a very rational person, but I think everyone should at least try to do the thing they love so that they don’t spend their life wondering what if.  Hard work and practice have helped me the most in getting where I am today.  In the fashion industry, you can’t be afraid of the word no.  When looking for an internship, I applied to at least 100 different places, and around 10 responded.  But, I kept sending emails anyway, and I ended up with more than one offer.  Not everyone is going to love everything you make, some people might hate it all, but that’s okay because not everyone can be your customer.  If someone wants to be a fashion designer, they need to work hard, practice their skills like sewing and drawing, and be diligent when looking for jobs.  Build up a portfolio as much as possible to get into a good program to study more.  With fashion constantly changing, there’s always more to learn. What do you love most about being a woman? I think the best part of being a woman is that we have so many different options to dress and accessorize ourselves however we please.  There’s clothing out there for every style imaginable, you can dress formally or casually, and on top of the clothes you can add jewelry, nail polish, makeup, hairstyles and colors, purses, and of course, shoes.  Knowing that the world is like a never-ending closet for women excites me.  Personally, dressing myself for my mood or occasion or just my style of the day is my favorite part of being a woman. What is your most memorable moment as a Fashion Design Major and Designer? My most memorable moment as a fashion design major would be seeing my first collection on the runway.  It was just last semester, my junior year, and the first time I had made a collection.  It consisted of 3 outfits [pictured above], and seeing them come out on the runway was the best feeling ever.  It felt like my hard work had paid off and it was sort of a milestone moment in my career.  I hope to be able to showcase on many more runways in the future. What is your least memorable moment as a Fashion Design Major and Designer? My least memorable moment in fashion design has probably been the times when I stayed up all night working on projects and not getting the grade that I was aiming for.  For one competition project, I worked on it everyday for weeks, and the day before it was due I was fixing last minute details and presentation things until 6am, only to not be selected by my teacher to be sent to the competition.  Things like that can get me down, but it also pushes me to try harder next time. Are there any struggles being a woman in your field? In fashion, I don’t think being a woman makes it any harder than a man to make a name for yourself.  However, there are still more well known male designers than female designers.  Luckily, I don’t see gender to be a hindrance in furthering my career. What is one thing many people do not know about you? One thing many people don’t know about me is that I spent a lot of my childhood on a farm.  I grew up with goats, llamas, dogs, and cats.  I feel like I’m more into city living at heart, but I definitely appreciate the things growing up in a rural area has taught me. Our fun question: If you could be any animal what would it be and why? If I could be any animal, I would like to be a mermaid.  I know that’s not really an animal, but it’s the best thing I can imagine.  They get to swim all day and hang out with tons of other underwater species.  Not to mention they probably have an awesome 6 pack of abs just from flipping that fin, kind of like leg lifts.  It would be cool though because they can still come up to land and hang out by the beaches too, so it’s like the best of both worlds. What does the future hold for you? For my future, I want 2 main things. Number 1 being a successful career, and number 2 being a family.  I would like to work my way up in an established brand, hopefully getting to be a head designer or creative director one day.  I would definitely prefer working with women’s ready to wear or even in the bridal industry.  Maybe after several years of learning what not to do, I could start my own label.  I would probably start out as an online store, and work my way up to a brick and mortar location.  I know that I will be working crazy hours because that’s how the fashion industry is, but making time for my family is super important to me.  I would like to travel a lot while I’m still young, and have my career going so that I can be around by the time my kids are reaching all those precious milestones.  I also want to be a supportive wife in whatever my husband decides to pursue.  My career may come first on my timeline of the future, but when I also have a family, they will take priority. Where can people find you? Currently, I am interning with Gretta Kay’s bridal boutique White Dress in Waynesboro, VA.  I’m also starting work at the Sew Classics in the Shenandoah Valley Heritage Market.  Those two stores are where I’ll be spending my summer months, and in the fall I’ll return to finish my senior year at VCU.  If anyone would like to contact me, my email address is critchfieldla@vcu.edu. 
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    HER Story | Tinita Tennant
    July 15, 2014
    World Wide Women Group presents the second season of the HER Story vlog series. For this episode we have author and spoken word artist, Tinita Tenant, who speaks on her life struggles.
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    HER Story - Tamekia Johnson
    July 1, 2014
    World Wide Women Group presents the second season of the HER Story vlog series. For this episode we have drug and abuse survivor, Tamekia Johnson, who speaks on being secluded from her family, being on drugs, and going to prison among other things.
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    HER Story: College Edition | Jasmine Young
    June 26, 2014
    World Wide Women Group presents the second season of the HER Story vlog series. This season will be the College Edition. For this episode we have student from George Mason University, Jasmine Young speaking on the issues that she has faced.
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    HER Story: College Edition | Brittney Hill
    June 19, 2014
    World Wide Women Group presents the second season of the HER Story vlog series. This season will be the College Edition. For this episode we have student from George Mason University, Brittney Hill speaking on the issues that she has faced.
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    The Break-Up Chronicles | It’s Better Than Being Alone
    June 18, 2014
      I recently saw a post on Instagram that said it’s the year of the side chick; I thought that was a rather interesting proclamation. Not for the said side chick, but the woman that stays in the relationship knowing that she is not his only love interest. I will not spend much time on the other woman for two reasons, one because as I said before she does not owe you anything you entered the relationship with him not her. Secondly, because any woman who intentionally goes after a man in a relationship has a deeper issue that requires much needed attention, a class of self-worth, and an entirely different blog series. So the focus today is on the battle of loneliness. I personally believe the only time we fight being alone is when there is some unresolved issue within that we prefer to suppress than to actually deal with. So we keep busy, whether that’s with men, reality TV, food, shopping, or whatever other drug of choice we choose. Because that’s what it is a drug, drugs whether prescribed or not are used to subside or suppress pain for a period of time. And as long as we are high, the pain is not present so as long as a man is there good or bad the deep rooted pain does not have to be addressed. So what do we do, we let the side chick have a day, month, year, decade, we can go forever on this. Because we think it’s ok to share, as long as he relieves the pain when we need it relieved, and he buys us things, and sleeps in our bed at least 4 of the 7 days of the week because that then makes you wifey, you win in your mind since you have 24 hours more than her. This topic is actually the hardest of all blogs to write because it is the root of unhealthy relationships. If you let him go, how will loneliness feel? When you spend 16 or more hours a day with a person whether that’s face to face, text message, phone, etc; it is hard to adjust to that person’s absence. But you have to if you truly love you and know that you’re worth more than a part-time partner. I am ending this blog series on a simple note, because at the end of the day it is up to you to want to feel better. You have the option to choose to stay in a relationship and hope things will change, or let it go and build a relationship with yourself. I can attest to the fact that when you stop hiding from the pain, confront it, and build a relationship with yourself life will change and it will get better. You will enjoy spending time alone because you will enjoy learning and loving you. - Elle Harris
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    HER Story: College Edition | Bianca Alba
    June 12, 2014
    World Wide Women Group presents the second season of the HER Story vlog series. This season will be the College Edition. For this episode we have student from George Mason University, Bianca Alba speaking on the issues that she has faced.
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    The Break-Up Chronicles | Abuse: Remembering The Good and The Bad
    June 10, 2014
    How many times have you told a friend or have had a friend tell you, I don’t know why you stay with him after all that… Hilarious isn’t it. This is our go to for every “televised” relationship we see and think we know about. I mean television is truly what it is, I watch my friend/sister/cousin/etc. relationship, with my eyes I hear things that transpire but I have no intimate time or emotions invested so all I can be is just a viewer. This is what we do over and over again we never understand a relationship that we are not in personally unless we’ve been in the situation before. I learned this lesson for myself years ago, giving unsolicited advice to a friend about her relationship. Though what I said may have very well been factual, it was not my place to say all that I did, and it caused friction between us. That day I learned my lesson and I never gave advice on a relationship that was warranted, ever again. You see my friend had been involved in a relationship that started off perfect. This guy was handsome, well spoken, nicely put together, and a complete gentleman. He completely swept her off her feet; he exposed her to a side of life she had never seen before. Exotic vacations, deep conversations of politics and religion, cuisine from different countries, and he even introduced her to a few European fashion labels.   She saw no wrong in him; to her he upgraded her and showed her a side of life she had never seen before. He was a businessman and so they frequently went to networking events. He loved to show her off and he would buy her beautiful gowns to wear and treat her to a day at the salon whenever these events popped up. Her beauty was always the topic of discussion; she would smile meekly and give all praises to her man, who would always reward her praises with a forehead kiss. One night while at the beach looking out unto the ocean he said to her 152, she didn’t understand what he was talking about he told her that’s how many eyelashes you have per eye, I counted. She blushed he told her he wanted to know everything about her and leave nothing unexplored. No man had ever told her this before, he had captured her heart and that night on the beach they conceived a child. The next day while at work, she received flowers thanking her for a lovely night and expressions of excitement for the event they were to go to later that evening. When she arrived to his house she saw a dress he had just purchased for her with a note that read please wear me tonight. She liked the dress but had something of her own she wanted to wear. They met at the event that night arriving separately and when she came in once again she was breathtaking. But he was not happy when she reached to kiss him he walked away. She was left confused and she quickly followed him. She reached to grab his hand and slow him down but when they locked fingers he squeezed her hand so tight as if he was in attempt to break it. It took everything in her to prevent her from screaming, they made their way to their destination a private one stall bathroom. He shoved her head into the wall repeatedly, kneed her in the stomach and spit in her face. He walked away and said never make me waste my money on you again, and when I get home you better be clean and in that dress I bought you. He kissed her forehead and walked away. That night she did not return to his house, instead she came to mine. She was bloody and refused to go to the hospital. I was heated and told her I will go get your stuff I’m not scared of him, I got there with reinforcement and we cleared out her things. She was ok when I returned home, and said she refused to be anyone’s punching bag. Two weeks passed and she did not hear from him it tore her up because wasn’t he sorry? She missed him so much that she became delirious. I would hear her cry and scream at night and I would just go hug her and tell her you are worth so much more. She didn’t think so, and that led to our first argument she packed her things and left. I called her and became worried when she didn’t call me back, I talked to her mom who told me she was well and she was him, her mom didn’t know about the fight. I let it go; all I could offer was prayer, because of course- I could not possibly understand why she wanted to stay. He gave her something no man had ever before; he gave her the lifestyle she constantly dreamed about- overnight. He expanded her world and she felt the cost was cheap, a bumps and bruises would eventually heal, but not her heart from the loss of him. He had some problems she would admit, but she would stand by his side, it was only right she would say. A month later her mom called and said she was in the hospital broken ribs, beat to a pulp. I arrived scared not knowing if she would make it. I didn’t say anything about him to her mom because I refused to make matters worse. She pulled through and begged me not to tell who did this to her. She lied and said someone tried to mug her, but all the leads she gave police landed nowhere of course, and once again he was gone. He never even showed up at the hospital he sent flowers and lied about being out of town. I had him followed I know he was home. "She didn’t want help- only him, the memories of the good days outweighed her bad." When she fully recovered six months later I asked her what was next, she didn’t know she said her heart still longed for him even though he had not called or come by to see her. She lost her child in that fight and he never even knew about the pregnancy. She told me the last time I saw her, I hope he comes back to me, I know he’s just getting himself together but I will be ready when he returns. Our friendship was never the same I loved her and always will but I refused to be a viewer of her demise. She didn’t want help- only him, the memories of the good days outweighed her bad. I never judged her because she could have been me, or any of us. So ladies my only suggested to anyone going through this is never let the good outweigh the bad if it will cost you your life… - Elle Harris
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    HER Story: College Edition | Sade Bowens
    June 5, 2014
    World Wide Women Group presents the second season of the HER Story vlog series. This season will be the College Edition. For this episode we have student from George Mason University, Sade Bowens speaking on the issues that she has faced.
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    The Break-Up Chronicles | A Relation-less Relationship
    June 3, 2014
    The first relationship that a woman encounters with the opposite sex is with her father. In a perfect world the idea would be for a bond between the two to be so tight, that the only way a woman would date or marry a guy is because of her father’s approval. It would be impossible to sway her with gifts, or call her out her name because her father provides her needs, has shown her how to be self-sufficient, and the only time she has ever been called outside of the name he gave her was to compliment her. If this happened we would not have any relational problems but since this is not the case let’s look at why we crave relationships that lack relation. It is said that men are the natural hunters, they like the chase in order to get the ultimate game; I talked about this in a previous blog. Well similar to this, women who have not had healthy relationships with men and/or their father do the exact same thing. We hunt. We hunt for the love that was not given to us, and we do it at all cost. Unfortunately this happens mostly when the man does not want us for anything more than a "good time". Now you may say that he does so much for you, take you out, shopping sprees, etc. The one I hear the most is, “We don’t have sex every time we see each other. Sometimes we just talk, but he just says he’s not ready to put a title on anything.” Let me just go ahead and put this out there: If a man wants to be with you, HE WILL. The million and one excuses he feeds you as to why he has not made it official are all lies!!! A man that truly loves you will do everything at all cost not to lose you, if you give him an ultimatum and he lets you walk away. He truly does not care about you. I am going to say this one more time because I feel that some woman reading this will convince herself not to believe that line. IF HE LETS YOU WALK AWAY AFTER GIVING HIM AN ULTIMATUM HE TRULY DOES NOT LOVE YOU!!! The funny thing about being a woman is that when we have a man come into our life too nice, too giving, all in, we cannot handle it; He’s too easy for us to run over, in our mind. Yet the moment this man or any man shows no interest we have to prove to him that he needs us. Why do we fall victim to this? Because we long for the things that we cannot have, no matter how bad it is. When you’ve never had a reference point as to how this is supposed to go, you can lose yourself in trying to figure it out. Here is my solution start with loving you, and asking God to be that father that may not be there. Spend time alone rid yourself of this man because it can lead to mental, physical, and emotional problems. Look in the mirror and say to yourself that a man does not define you, say it every day until you believe it. I know this may sound strange but you have to find out where the void is in your life and fill it with positive things. And as anything I stated before it will not be easy, but its reward will be far greater than you can imagine. it will allow you to start one of the greatest relationships ever- the one with yourself. - Elle Harris
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    HER Story: College Edition | Kaitlyn Mason
    May 28, 2014
    World Wide Women Group presents the second season of the HER Story vlog series. This season will be the College Edition. For this episode we have student from George Mason University, Kaitlyn Mason speaking on the issues that she has faced.
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    The Break Up Chronicles | Ummh Yeah This Is Cheating
    May 27, 2014
    Cheating- is it the ultimate betrayal!!!!!!! I think we can all agree that if someone came into our home today and went through all of our personal things, tried on our clothes, even took some of our most precious pictures that captured moments we never ever want to forget we would feel compromised. I personally wouldn’t feel safe in the environment anymore, because the person that came into my home has left their residue and every time I enter it I would be reminded of that. Well that’s what cheating is my loves. I remember the first time I was cheated on, by someone I never thought in a million years would cheat on me. It’s interesting my self-esteem must have been shot at that point in my life because I remember dating this guy because I knew he was not “cute” enough to cheat on me. Boy was I wrong. Well I met this guy at a basketball game in college I thought was cute enough to “bag” and we began to talk. As time progressed we spent almost every day and moment together. He told me about his past relationships, as did I, but one relationship had really broken him, he decided to remain friends with this young lady, and during times when we would hang out she would call I would hand him the phone and smile. I was happy he restored his relationship with his friend. The end of the semester had come and it was time to go home for the summer. I went off to boot camp for the Army Reserves that summer, he returned to his hometown and his home woman. We wrote each other and I thought life was perfect, until I returned to school. He wasn’t the same, he had been compromised, and he reeked of another woman’s doing. The thing we have as woman is natural intuition and I just knew something wasn’t right but I couldn’t put my finger on it. So a few weeks passed and he decided to tell me the truth. I felt my world crumble, before then he was my safety net, my secure place, my home. He then became a constant reminder of what was taken from me. So not only did he tell me that he rekindled with her over the summer, he also told me she was now pregnant. So I felt like I had been sucker punched. That night was the hardest, the feelings that had evolved I had never felt before, it was the first time that I mourned a lost in my life. As I slept I must have had horrible nightmares because when I awoke that morning my roommate asked if I had been in a fight with my ex because I kept screaming for him to stop touching me. I woke up that morning with swollen eyes, I felt sick to my stomach, my girls were there to support me and create all sorts of revengeful ways to pay him back. Then something came back to my memory from the night before. He told me even though he was with her he didn’t want to leave me alone. He just couldn’t give me up. I struggled with this for the next year or so of my life, we developed this on again off again relationship. Our love had been tampered with and I had never been hurt that way before. I wanted to make him pay for it over and over and over again, but I later realized that only caused further detriment to me. I thought by holding on she didn’t win him; I wanted her to feel the pain I felt, but that was never fair to her. See the problem was never her, it was us, I came into the relationship with too much confidence, he came into it as a rebound. Two hurt people came together and produced a catastrophe. So wounded and all, I finally let go, he couldn’t understand how I could and how he no longer had a hold on me. See ladies I realized he was never my home from the start; the invasion took place to remove something out of my life that was so toxic it could have taken me under. The pain I felt was similar to the pains of a workout, it hurts at first but you become stronger, because without pain there is truly no gain. The release I felt was emancipation, I stopped holding to a piece of a man just to say I had someone and in that I found my entire self. So is cheating really the ultimate betrayal or is it deliverance? Now in some cases it may be the deliverance that makes a relationship stronger, trust me I have seen it. But in other cases it’s the deliverance to freedom. Think back to your past and even current relationships and ask yourself is this really my home (man) or has the invasion(cheating) revealed otherwise…. - Elle Harris
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    HER Story: College Edition | Yazmin Dzib
    May 21, 2014
    World Wide Women Group presents the second season of the HER Story vlog series. This season will be the College Edition. For this episode we have student from George Mason University, Yazmin Dzib speaking on the issues that she has faced.
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    World Wide Women Group | Year One
    May 20, 2014
    To celebrate the first year of the inception of World Wide Women Group, WWW Group has decided to release a video just showing some of the highlights of the first year. There is more to come!
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    The Break Up Chronicles | He’s No Good…But It’s So Good
    May 19, 2014
    As women we have natural intuition and I strongly believe that with every encounter whether that’s a man or woman we know when that aura of that person is not right. The only time this doesn’t work is when our own aura is clouded. I can personally attest to this, as I have always been warned in advanced or at least felt uneasy when a man I eventually dated was no good for me. Oh but generally the ultimate no goods are some of the finest, most sexually appealing men that walk the face of the earth. I have personally seen one emerge from the water at the beach, he was Israeli he had long dark hair and he was chiseled to perfection. The worst part was the lust he carried in his eyes, as if his pregnant wife was not even a few feet away from him. JUST NO GOOD!!! Now back to business, so let’s take a look at how this happens. We meet Mr… and for the sake of this series we will call him Jason. So you are enjoying a great day in the mall when you are approached by Jason, who has a body like The Rock with lips and a smile like LL Cool J. (You paint him your color of choice). Jason is a charmer and ladies he has dimples, you may even find yourself saying why did he approach me? He leaves after you exchange numbers, and you spend the rest of the day in la la land. Your self-esteem has been raised your stride is a little sexier than it was before, and you may even find yourself spending more money than you intended. I mean you do have to buy a dress for your first date because there will be a first date, you are sure of it. Here’s a brief synopsis of the relationship. The first day was the only date where your clothes didn’t leave your body, and you confused this passion for love. It was your high, he was your drug. But that’s all he was good for- a temporary intensely climatic ending. He lacked the ability to mentally and socially stimulate you. He moved in with you, did not pay any bills in your home, and now you even find yourself paying his bills. He is never home, always has your car though his license is suspended, and never fixes anything on it or in it. So you argue constantly but he knows how to shut you up, he gets you high off his love and then that settles you back down for a while. But one day you gain the strength to leave Jason alone. You pack his mess and send him back to his mom’s couch. You feel good you turn on some music and clean your house like never before. You feel good; you take a long bath and decide to go out with your girls for the night. You all have a good night, and of course they tell you how they never really liked him anyway. Funny stories are exchanged, smiles, tears, laughs, are all passed around. You exhale and prepare to go home for the night. The house looks a lot emptier and even cold now, it’s dark and you don’t trip over the timb’s that are always in front of the door. You shower and prepare for bed but once you climb in it doesn’t feel the same. It’s bigger- yes, more space- yes, but it’s empty. Then it hits you Jason’s not coming home late it’s already 4am and the sun will be out shortly. You grab your phone and there are no missed calls from him. You see a text notification, and get excited, but it’s only your mom checking in on you. You try to shake it off and force yourself to sleep, and you don’t realize you did indeed get some rest until your alarm goes off. It’s Monday morning now, and this Monday is just really trying for some reason. Your boss has managed to get on every nerve ending in your body. You pick up the phone to call Jason, but you remember it’s over; the mixed emotions begin to creep in because he was your confidante. It’s only been 2 days, and you begin to realize how much he consumed your life. And the answer to every upset: personally, professionally, mentally was Jason. You make it through the day and get home a lot earlier than normal. This is unfamiliar, you call your girls no one’s available, and your mom is not answering what’s next. The tears, because you realized that you broke up Saturday and he has made no attempt to contact you. He is not fighting for you after all you have done for him. So you pick up the phone to tell him or his voicemail- who ever will listen to just how furious you are. NOW what happens if you froze in that moment and instead of calling him you picked up a notebook and wrote everything that you were feeling? Tears are ok to because they cleanse the soul. Then on the back of that same paper you write a list and you entitle it-The Reasons. You list every reason why you broke it off with him. Write down when you started to notice his shift in behavior, and you have to write this early in the break up because if you don’t, being alone will take over in a few days and you could find yourself in a state of relapse. Next you need to make a month long bucket list. Write a list of healthy and positive things you can do for 30 days straight and if working out is one of those things be sure to do that each of those 30 days. You also want to assign yourself an accountability partner, a GIRL friend you can call when it gets tough and they will come over and stay by your side. It will get tough trust me but you channel those thoughts on paper not on Jason. You also make time daily to deal with you, what got you to this point and attracted you to a man like this. You have to be aware of those things because if not the cycle will repeat and you will find yourself with another Jason. (Have you ever asked yourself why do I attract the same type of men)? It’s because though you have cleaned your house you still have remnants of Jason left on you, you have to wipe it all away. These next 30 days are critical to your develop you have to quickly assess what happened and occupy your time with healthy activities. That means no men, no self-pity parties, no drunken texts or phone calls, no Jason. Jason will call to check on you or to “wish you the best” which will only ignite something in you. The feelings of getting “high” will come back to the forefront of your memory, and believe me it will do its best to cloud your judgment. Then you will wonder if he was really that bad, he did have a rough childhood right? This is when you pull out your Reasons list. Be strong because temporary pleasures can cause a lifetime of pain, more than physically but mentally as well. You do not want this break to make you bitter or cause you to build up a wall against men. Even though Jason was no good, you taught him how to treat you; we will talk about this at the conclusion of this series. - Elle Harris
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    The Break-Up Chronicles | Learning to Heal While It Still Hurts
    May 19, 2014
    One of the hardest things in life to face is a healthy breakup, and when I say healthy I mean no rebound guy, no substances to subside the pain, and no revenge. I mean a truly authentic breakup filled with cries, alone time, emotional roller coasters, but also the most important thing-natural healing. I decided to write this 5 part blog series because I have encountered many women lately who are struggling with this process. At first it was hard for me to grasp because, I am like a light switch when I flick the switch off it does not come back on. But I also had to think about how long did it take me to get up and reach for that light switch in previous relationships, and how did it feel when everything faded to black. So I will release five blogs discussing 5 different types of breakups and the best way to start the healing process. And for anyone who’s coming into this, with the thought that I could not understand what you are going through because I am married, here is my PSA: Let’s just say once I healed, I was reunited with my love (who I had not seen since I was 11) one year later, and married two years after that. So trust me I got this… THE FIRST ONE DROPPING TODAY @ 4PM
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    HER Story: College Edition | Vanessa Ashford
    May 13, 2014
    World Wide Women Group presents the second season of the HER Story vlog series. This season will be the College Edition. For this episode we have student from George Mason University, Vanessa Ashford speaking on the issues that she has faced.
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    In Pursuit Of Me | I Loved Him More by Brittney Dennis
    May 6, 2014
    Hey Love, You were just lurking on his page huh? It's ok. We all have lurked. I want you to really ask yourself this: "What did I LOVE about him? What did I LIKE about him?" You are probably thinking well we used to do this, we used to do that. No. Not what YALL did; what did you LOVE about him? What did you LIKE about him? If you are racking your brain, trying to answer, you were in love with the relationship more than him. I had this realization after like boo hoo crying one night. I opened my journal to write: "ugh I really miss him. I feel so alone. I miss how he used to..." I stopped because I didn't have anything to write. Here I was pining and depressed over a man that I DID NOT EVEN LIKE. Girl bye! Let that WHOLE thing go and PURSUE YOU! Figure out what you LOVE and LIKE about you! #InPursuitOfMe #TheBook #Free #Depression #BreakUps #Divorce - Brittney Dennis Guest Blogger
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    A Scorned Woman… a Broken Man
    April 28, 2014
    The saying “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” is such a powerful yet true statement, because some of the most physically attractive women in the world can possess some of the strongest venom known to mankind. I have had the privilege, and I say that very loosely, to meet many scorned women. Most of these women do not carry it on their chest as a scarlet letter. They are smart, have quick wit, and they can charm the socks off of any man under their spell. They have a way of luring you in under their spell without you ever realizing you’ve been captured. For the scored woman, it is pure ecstasy to see you melt and become a pawn in their game of chest. Scorned women have discernment as well; they know who they can take down, the bigger the heart of the man the greater the victory will be, to take him down. These are generally the boy next door type; they are sweet to the bone, with a heart of gold and would do anything to bring joy to anyone around them. This is an issue for the scorned woman because she doesn’t know what authentic happiness feels like. She has been robbed of her ability to openly love, care, and nurture. She is angry and her heart has been compromised and she has vowed to herself to make every man around her pay for it. This is how: The scorned woman sees the boy next door before he has even seen her, and she has already made up in her mind that he is her next pawn. She gives him subtle glimpses that say I’m confident and beautiful but if you want me you will pursue me. He loves the aura she gives off because he’s never felt anything like this. He confidently yet nervously approaches her, says a small joke which isn’t very funny but she will entertain it for now. She looks him over and smells sincerity, he reeks of it; she smiles because she’s just envisioned his fall to brokenness. He’s so captivated by her gentle ways and politeness that nothing else matters. So they date months pass, everything is going fine, she meets his family some love her especially the men, then there are a few women that have their reservations, because they know the spirit of a scorned woman. Then the venom begins to be released- slowly. He begins to tell her his dreams and what the future looks like for them, she kills each and every thought of progression for him. And she doesn’t do it drastically; it’s subtle like a carbon monoxide leak. Then he begins to feel insecure a feeling he never knew until then. Everything she loved about him before annoys her, his smile, quirky laugh, and his family. So she alienates him, she begins to tell him how his family and friends secretly despise him and he pulls away from everyone but her. He’s so deep in that he hasn’t realized what’s happened. She begins to go out more with friends, less with him, their pillow talks turn into degrading rants of how inept he is. Then he begins to notice that the phone rings more at night. She laughs at text messages the way she used to laugh when they would talk on the phone all night until sunrise. The blissful sin they committed several times a day comes to a halt. He spirals into a depression, she’s happy and now it’s time for her to finish him off. So after taking everything from him emotionally and physically she has one of her friends tell him that she’s cheating. Her friend pretends to care about his feelings and thought he should know, she sends him pictures and texts. He feels a pain in his heart that he never knew could exist. He confronts her and she confirms it arrogantly, this time she adds fuel to the fire she’s set on his heart, and just like that she’s gone. A few week’s past and he begins to feel better. She sees him out and he’s too happy for her liking so she targets him again, she apologizes and reminds him of her daddy issues and broken home memories. He gives in because the venom is still in his body and her touch reignites feelings he hasn’t felt for weeks. She goes home with him for a wild passionate night; he wakes up the next morning to an empty place in his bed and a mirror stained in lipstick with a message that read “you will always be my pawn…” Yes this woman is dangerous but one day it will come back to her, because the harvest you sow is the harvest you reap. That harvest could be her destruction or her deliverance. And if she is delivered she makes it her goal to help other scorned woman find theirs, and she does her best to never make a man feel that way again. Trust me I know… Signed, A Recovering Scorned Woman - Elle Harris
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    The Resurrection
    April 20, 2014
    Today is Easter, which has many different meanings depending on who you’re speaking with. Some use this day to provide their children beautiful baskets filled with candy, eggs, and Easter bunnies. Some use this day to visit church in their most stylish apparel and gather with their family afterwards to feast with one another. Then there is a religious meaning tied into this day, as it is the celebration of the resurrection of Jesus Christ. To resurrect means to restore a dead person to life. I think generally when we think about this we refer it to one of the most important days in the history of the world and that’s the day Jesus was restored to life again. But something truly devastating as disturbed the definition on resurrection, it’s the fact that we have so many people walking around dead, and let’s just call them the Walking Dead. Life has happened to them, situations have come that have left them in a crippled and debilitating state. So these people wander through life just passing time, caught up in the mix of just barely making it. They go to work, they come home and tend to their families, go to sleep and the cycle continues. Every now and then they tell themselves this can’t be life, but they are so deeply immersed in this way of living they know of no other way to escape. Well today I am telling you the way to escape-resurrection. Now this doesn’t mean to physically die and wait to be restored back to life. It means to literally bury everything that has you emotionally bound and in a unhealthy trance. This may not happen in a hour or so because maybe there are several things that have had strongholds over you for long periods of time. These things have roots that so deep and rich that it’s going to take some deep plowing to remove. This is not going to feel good at first because you are going to have to revisit some very painful moments, and even come face to face with certain demons. But the days leading up to the death of Jesus Christ the same thing happened. He was tortured, persecuted, yet He had to endure this in order for the resurrection to occur, and this will be no different from your process. We all have things in our lives that prevent us from fully thriving in life the way that we should. It’s up to us to face those demons, bury them so that our lives can be restored. So this resurrection Sunday, April 20, 2014, let the old ways die so that you can be restored to life. - Elle Harris
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    A Seductive Tango with Fear by Elle Harris
    April 14, 2014
    I entered the ballroom filled with potential investors, grantors, clients, and business partners. Each person I dreamed of meeting, stood within just steps from me. Me, sweaty palmed, heart pulsating, awkward hug giving me, if I could hug one person without stepping on a Tom Ford or Giuseppe I will be ok. Then the tango music started I saw a man in all black he had the coldest pair of eyes that held the power to arrest all positive thoughts that existed before. My first thought was to find the quickest seat which seemed to be a football field away from where I stood. So I quickly grabbed the train of my dress and headed for the ladies room. He grabbed my arm, and though my back was turned I knew it was him from the chill that ran through my body. It was the feeling you get when the boogie man finally shows his face. I pulled away but he only clutched me tighter. In efforts to not draw attention to myself I gave into him. I looked around to see if anyone else was paying attention but for some reason, it was as if I was the only one who saw him. He whispered softly in my ear, these people don’t care about you. Your dreams are worthless, they have no validity what can you honestly tell these people you have done to make a difference. Then he placed his hand on the small of my back. Anyone can look the part but you don’t possess the voice to seal the deal. He rubbed the back of his hand across my cheek. But most importantly, he said, you don’t have the guts to confidently talk to anyone in this room because you are a joke then he dipped me low and let go. I felt everything in that moment embarrassment, anxiety, cold, gut wrenching pains, and I felt exposed. I was falling and it felt like forever, all I could think about is once I hit the bottom everyone will see, how will I talk to them then, my heartbeat was so intense that you could see the imprint on my chest. My heel of my foot was the first part of me to touch the floor then I felt something, a strong force pushing me back up. I was not sure of where it came from but it was all I needed. It propelled me to a new height, I felt higher then I had been before. Fear vanished as it was only my own false anticipation of negative results. I gained a confidence, a better stride, and most important I was ready to seal the deal. I heard clapping as the tango was over I blinked my eyes and realized I did make it across the room to my seat. I excused myself from the table, because it was time to make my dreams come true. - Elle Harris
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    First Date Do’s & Don’t For Women | By Shod Harris
    April 2, 2014
    Lately I’ve seen and heard too many women talk about wanting a man or they are tired of being single or they are tired of dating men that just want them from their body, etc. I must say as a man, hearing this from women gets very old. Instead of looking at the men you are dating and finding fault within them, it might be time to look into the mirror and see what you are doing wrong that is leading you to all of these problems with dating. Dating is really not that hard if you just relax and take it easy. Some women think too hard and they make dating very complex, dating shouldn’t be Sudoku. So I thought it would be a good person and give women some advice from a man’s perspective on some do’s and don’ts when you are on a first date with a man. All of this that I am about to say is pretty much common sense but some of you all lack that when you have high levels of THIRST going through your body at one time. Keep in mind the suggestions I’m about to give you is for a guy that you can actually see yourself with, not a bum dude. So pay attention and its ok to take notes, I encourage it. Do’s | Look Sexy: Look like it took you some time to get ready. Get your hair, nails and feet done. Please don’t look like you just woke up or you just threw something on. Wear something that is flattering to your body. Always make sure to highlight your positives and hide the negatives (take a note on that). So no XS shirts when you have a XL body. I’m just being honest. Don’t | Don’t Show Everything: Men like to imagine how your body would look naked, so don’t give them everything on the first date. So avoid all clothes that make you look like a heaux, slut, thot, and any other synonym that matches those words. Men analyze what a woman is wearing more than you think we do. This is something that can put you either in the wifey category or the f#$K buddy category. The choice is ultimately yours. Do’s | Be Engaged During Conversation: Expect the man to ask you all of the questions in the world to try to get to know you, and when he does, engage in the conversation with him. No man wants to feel like the woman is too guarded to answer a simple question. When a man sees that a woman is real guarded or cold it usually tells us that a woman is holding onto a lot of baggage or they are dealing with or hiding something and nobody likes a woman with a lot of baggage or that is hiding something. Don’t | Talk about Sex: As a man I know that in the first conversations with any woman, we like to test the landscape to see what we are able to get away with. So every man I know will try to bring up sex or some type of sexual connotation to see what the woman says. Women, it’s important that when you are hit with this topic (because it will happen) to find a way to bring the conversation back to something PG. If you go into full-fledged sex talk that guy's mind isn’t going to be on wanting to get to you know you better but more on wondering what that Ginger Snap (my word for The Vag) is like. Do’s | Have Fun: There are women out there who want to be so closed off that they refuse to let themselves have any fun. I know this isn’t the majority of women but there are definitely some women out there that are like this. If you aren’t that women then this one doesn’t apply to you. Pay attention to this next don’t though. Don’t | Don’t Go to His House: Don’t have too much fun that you end up at the guy’s house. Make sure your first encounter is somewhere out. Either he should be picking you up or you are meeting somewhere. If the dude says he wants you to come to his house to “chill”, he is trying to set you up for the Okie Doke. Even if you don’t have sex, he already has it is his mind that he can get the ginger snap. To be real, you shouldn’t go to his house maybe until the 3rd or 4th date, when he hits you with the “let me cook for you” line. (Every guy does it, but it is very effective. Women love a man that can cook.) Do’s | Play It Cool: If you aren’t aware, every guy likes a challenge. We don’t want anything that wasn’t hard to get. Men are very willing to put in the work if we know that the outcome is something special. So when I say that, I mean make sure that you show him that you won’t accept just anything and you have standards. Even if this is the only date you have been on in the past year, act like you have been out with other guys in the past. This leads to my don’t….. Don’t | Don’t Be Thirsty: When the date is over DO NOT blow him up with texts, calls, FB messages, subliminal tweets, etc. Just keep it cool. Like my mom used to say, act like you have been somewhere before. I hope I was able to help out the ladies out there that are having a hard time with guys. These are just some tips to make sure you enter into that wifey zone and not that “I Wanna Hit” category. So the moral of the story is, know your worth and act like you have standards or a man will treat you according to what your actions show.
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    In Pursuit Of Me | A Dream by Brittney Dennis
    March 12, 2014
    A dream: It was a beautiful afternoon. The sun was shining. I was in my car. Alone. I remember smiling. That type of smile you feel in your soul. The windows were down. Breeze in my hair. I proceeded to get on the interstate on the on ramp which was a sharp turn. I saw myself smiling as I smoothly entered ongoing traffic. I kept driving. Next scene, same dream: It was a beautiful afternoon. The sun was shining. I was in my car. With my now ex husband as he drove, I remember my face being neutral and looking out of my window. The windows were up. The car was stuffy. He exited the interstate in a hurried fashion. I felt the car lose control. My head snapped forward. My eyes grew with fear. My head snapped to look at him. His gaze was forward and neutral even in the midst of my panic as we fell past the guard rail. I woke up and snuggle closer to him while he slept for comfort. - Brittney Dennis
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    In Pursuit Of Me | Happy Father's Day by Brittney Dennis
    March 8, 2014
    We have been privileged to introduced to some and reintroduced to many Miss Brittney Dennis. She has shared some wonderful excerpts with us that are heart felt, gut-wrenching, and liberating all in the same breath. Get ready because this new author is going to blow your mind. I called him a thousand times this day in desperation. It was exactly 9 days after he left. Father's Day. Here we were, myself and our two children with no man to celebrate. I wanted my now ex husband to wake up on his back and smile down at what I was doing to him. And I would free my mouth to smile back at him and say Happy Fathers Day Daddy. I wanted to cook him brunch and have our son serve him and say Happy Father's Day Daddy and him feel proud to be a father and then recall me saying it first. In that moment he would look at me like.... I called him a thousand times that day while our children slept in our bed in the middle of the afternoon. I lay calling in desperation in the middle of our sons twin size bed. I felt so small in that bed as I sobbed pressing redial. I always feel small when I cry. I saw myself as tiny lying in the middle of that-- hello? Hello? I replied in a small voice. Yeah? You're supposed to be here, I sobbed. Don't do this. Did she cook you brunch? Did she tell you Happy Father's Day? I asked in a dead pan voice. Silence. What are you talking about? I swear you make me not want to live. I sobbed. That's what you gone do. You gone do that to me. Say you don't wanna live. I sobbed harder. Call disconnected. I sobbed in the middle of that bed. My son came in, tripped on something on the floor, fell, and shot back up and said I'm ok! I looked at him with my tear stricken face and laughed and he laughed back and I knew I would be ok. I still don't know who disconnected the call. B - Brittney Dennis
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    How to Create the Ultimate V-Day Experience? | by Shod Harris (@ShodHarris)
    February 14, 2014
    I hope everyone is having a great Valentine’s Day today. Today my wife, Elle Harris, has given me the opportunity to write a short article for her site about love and what not. At first I didn’t have any idea of what to write about, but after looking through Instagram a couple of times this morning, I think I have something interesting to write about. I see where a lot of women are talking about what their men are doing for them, but nobody is saying what they are doing or what they have planned for the special man in their life. Most women will say that “My man will just be happy with sex” and that could be true but ladies you can’t keep giving out the same ole ginger snap (my word for THE VAGINA) and expect your man to be ecstatic. Sometimes you have to add the bells and whistles to it too. Just like hopefully, your man does things to make you feel special, you need to do something that they would fully appreciate. So I want to give a couple of preferred suggestions to make sure you have a great V-day experience. Keep It A Secret. While you are planning your event or reading this blog make sure you don’t tell your guy anything. Even though guys say they don’t like surprises, we really do. So don’t hint at what you have planned or act weird or anything like that. No Distractions. This should be pretty simple to comprehend but make sure you don’t have any kids running around your house during this evening or if you do you, take this evening to a hotel. Also make sure you put all phones on vibrate. Nothing kills a mood quicker than a Marvin Sapp or 2 Chainz ringtone. Make his Favorite Meal. Even if you can’t cook at all, at least try to make his favorite meal. Men appreciate effort. Make Sure You Turn Yourself On. Have you ever walked past a mirror on one of your good hair days and turned yourself on, well you need to make that magic happen again this night. A man will always appreciate a woman who takes the time out to make sure she looks great for him. Ladies also make sure you do the small things as well like shaving and waxing the gingersnap and please either take off the polish on your nails or put some on. Don’t be that woman who is trying to be sexy with chipped nail polish. Trust me guys notice the small things. Make Your Environment “12 Play” Ready. This is where you need to bust out the scented candles, the tea lights, the rose pedals, and your favorite “After Hours” playlist. This is a must as well. The playlist is essential, I have created many GTD mixes (Getting the Draws, DAWGG (that’s for my Martin fans)), and so you have to make sure you have the right songs in your list. Make sure it includes your love songs and your X-rated songs as well. The key to a great V-day playlist is make sure you arrange your list to play all of the love songs first to play for dinner and what not but then the X-rated songs after that for all of the X-rated activities. You probably didn’t know creating a playlist was so intricate, but it can make or break an evening though, TRUST ME. Nasty Time. This is pretty simple as well, but for this occasion ladies make sure you do something that you usually don’t do. You can do things like take a bubble bath together, give a great massage, strip tease, lap dance, etc. Whatever you do just be confident and be aggressive. If this whole evening is done correctly, your guy will be smiling hard for weeks and will turn the spark in your relationship into a full on brush fire.  This isn't anything new  that people don't know but sometimes people just overlook the simple things. If you already have something planned for Valentine’s Day, you can do this evening anytime, Birthdays, Holidays, or a random Tuesday. Trust me, I won’t lead you wrong. Sincerely, The Love Gawdd - Shod Harris
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    How To Get A Good Man In 5 Days? | Day Five: Rules Of Engagement
    January 27, 2014
    And on the 5th day she engaged him. Engagement is where the real work begins in a relationship. I equate engagement to chess. The queen is the strongest piece on the board because of her ability to maneuver in so many ways she has many hats and should be able to operate successfully from all positions she’s put in. The King is the most powerful piece because once he’s captured its checkmate. This is how engagement should work, you should be able to move in a way that not only captures his attention but leaves him wanting more. A man must be lured in emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and physically to a woman. Let’s discuss how. Emotions. It’s funny how we so often believe men lack emotions, that’s because we do not clearly understand what emotions are. Emotions encompass an array of feelings: happiness, sadness, anger, frustration, joy, etc. We just quickly equate a man not being vulnerable to him lacking emotions. This is what really happens; some men have layers to peel back because just like us, they have been taught to be independent. Society forces men to hold everything in; they have to hide their fears, feelings of inadequacy, and pain from us because if not then that makes them less of a man. So once men feel a certain level of comfort with us they begin to open up. The ball then comes back to us because whatever we do next will either break the engagement or increase it. When a man opens up and shares something intimate you have to decide whether or not you can handle it. If you can’t please don’t call him a punk or cut him off completely but compartmentalize who he is to you. Let him just be a friend and tell him that you prefer it instead of lacking in giving him what he needs. This is a another job of the queen in chest, she will put herself in a situation of disadvantage in order to gain a better position. Now if you provide him comfort in this moment and stand by his side he then knows he can let down his guard down with you and this moves you one spot closer to your king. Spiritual connections are very real. I have seen women change their religion chasing behind a man please do not follow this path. If you will quickly change your belief system, morals, and values for a man then he already knows he can control you. I remember when I was in college I dated a Jehovah Witness, it was partly because I thought he looked good but at that time I figured it did not matter that I was Christian. As we talked more I realized it did, he begin to tell me about some of his guiding principles and what his woman must do and I was done. I had to let him know I will not leave Jesus for any man. You should be the same way stay firm in your beliefs and who knows if he is not a believer you may even influence him. Intellectual stimulation is so important. It’s cool to talk about clothes or what happened on Scandal- well maybe not Scandal I talk to my husband about that- well let’s just say whatever popular TV show, with your friends and family. But the conversation with your man needs to be way more engaging. Talk about your dreams and aspirations so that you can both determine if what you want in life makes room for the other. If he wants to travel the world as a photographer, does that align with your dream of starting a coffee shop. If not, then this relationship is doomed. One of you will potentially spend the rest of your days resenting the other. Your intellect also lets him know that you have substance you are more than your beautiful frame let him know the inside is just as great if not more. I have had so many men tell me that after the initial connection with a woman they look for intellect, because the beauty can only keep them for so long. Physically. We have talked about this before, but be versatile. Show him you are beautiful in gowns, sweat suits, casual gear, and business attire. That lets him know he can take you anywhere and he will not have to worry about what you will look like. Remember when you are the Prized woman he wants to show you off, and if he feels that you cannot compliment him he will lose interest. Men love to show off what they have and worked hard to obtain, if he does not want you to attend events or even social gatherings with him your engagement has not been compromised. Engagement is simple we as woman, love making moves if we can do it for ourselves, children, jobs, then we can most definitely do it for our man. Keeping him connected in every aspect of your life leaves him little time to stray, and if he’s good and engaged he will not want to stray. This should be fun for you as a woman it keeps the relationship exciting and the chase continued. Keep him on his toes and when you do that right he will want to stand still and allow his queen to become close enough to end the game. Checkmate. I hope this series has helped you in some way or another. Til next time…. Homework: Analyze all of your writings and thoughts from each day we have spent together and let me know if you want further information or assistance. All inquiries are confidential. Figure out if you are even at the point where you need to be in a relationship with someone other than you. You are at a crossroad so make your next decision your best decision. - Elle Harris
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    How To Get A Man In 5 Days? | Day Four: How Does He Find Me & How To Seal The Deal
    January 24, 2014
    Hopefully by now you are feeling good and you have began to deal with some issues that you may have never acknowledged before. But even in your new found happiness you may begin to wonder when will he find me? My only answer to you is when you least expect it. This is why I always say be on you’re A game everywhere you go. Let me tell you a little bit about men and how they find you. Men are natural hunters, they love the chase, the watch, the anticipation, and then they go in for the kill. If you know any hunters or if you’ve ever seen movies about hunters their most prized game is usually hung up somewhere to be admired. The prized game is the one you cannot touch, you can only view it because it was hard work and it was the one worth searching for. The prized game is rare it takes time and precision to catch and it is not easy to grab hold to. It’s also the game that he wants to tell everyone about especially his family, because this is his ultimate prize. On the way to the most prized game he will pick a few strays it’s just a part of the process. Those are the easy game the ones that are exposed, easy to trick, and not important to talk about. As a woman you have to decide which one you are going to be. Whenever a guy introduces himself to you please know this: he has been checking you out in advance. Whatever environment you are in think about your actions for the past 30 to 45 minutes, or really however long you have been there. So if you are in a club with your friends throwing back shots, loud, and overly revealed, he has watched this and understands that you are a quick kill. If you are at a lounge with a group of friends and you’re tastefully enjoying your night, mild-mannered, dressed in a way that peaks interest but does not give it all way, he may see his potential prized game. So ladies take heed to that- your environment, and your behavior within that environment. He’s watching trust me. There are a few occasions where you may cross the path of someone in the mall or just strolling through the park, but be very attentive of his gaze. If he undresses you with his eyes in that initial glance RUN!!!!!! We have intuition ladies it’s a God given sense if you just feel something is not right just kindly say thank you but I’m involved. That person you are involved with is you, of course, but he doesn’t need to know that. So let’s talk about sealing the deal. When we first start dating our initial dates are similar to the start of a new job, we pull out our best clothes, we share our best qualities, comb our hair, all the cute stuff. I challenge you to take this new job to another level. Give him an orientation find out about him, his family, and his past four (we talked about this yesterday know your four). Ask him about his credit, employment, children, is he married (you never know until you ask). Then you want to go over the employee handbook with him. Let him know what your rules and regulations are, pull out your human resource code of conduct, standards must be laid out in the very beginning. I am not saying do this on your very first date, but you may want to, at least do this by the end of month one. Way before any intimate encounters happen. Ladies please hear me, this may sound like enough to run him away but if he’s a good one he will not run he will be ready for the challenge because he knows you care about who you are as a person and what goes down in your relationship- you are the prized game. It’s all in your delivery; when talking to him about these things do not have an attitude or become defensive, casually ask. We are woman we know how to pull things out of a man, it’s an innate trait we possess. Now that you have sealed the deal tomorrow I will teach you how to keep him engaged…. Homework: Determine if you are the prized game or the stray. Do this by evaluating your actions in public settings. Create your orientation. Write down five questions that are important for you to know about a man. Use some of the ones listed above if need be. Create your own code of conduct. What are your standards and what will you tolerate. Make sure each violation has a consequence and write down what it is. What are the grounds for dismissal in a relationship for you? Intimacy. Before or after marriage, which will you choose and if it’s after stick with it and what are your plans to avoid possible slip ups. - Elle Harris
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    How To Get A Good Man In 5 Days? | Day Three: Are You Dateable?
    January 23, 2014
    As women we carry a lot of weight on us. We have to be independent, dependent, financially sound, stable, submissive, outspoken, motivators, mothers, lovers, career women, nurturers, kind, pleasant, easy on the eye, sexy, fit, strong, polite- I could do this all day and we have to do this with a smile on our face. At least that’s what we are taught, so we spend lots of time trying to determine which of these traits we need to exert the most. The problem is the trait many of us run to first is: independent. I have many theories as to why but I will only name two today. The first is because we believe we have to, we’ve seen our mothers do it and they carry it around like it’s a badge of honor. Literally, “look at me world I do everything alone!” Don’t get me wrong I feel being independent is a wonderful thing but there comes a time when being overly independent can compromise whether or not you are datable. I will go more into that later in the week; secondly we are independent because the media tells us we have to be. We listen to songs, and there are several of them, that talk about how much men love independent women and if you got your own and no man has helped you get it throw your hands up blah, blah, blah. I get it being an independent superwoman is awesome but not when you are so independent that the only valuable want in a man is to procreate. Men want to feel needed, they are problem solvers and if they cannot operate in this habitat they will migrate to the next. This refers only to GOOD men, because if he’s not a good man he could care less about how much you do to take care of him and your family. He actually wants you to be independent because that means you become his sponsor and life is smooth sailing for him. Now back to the good men, we all say that he’s so hard to find that’s true. He should find you!!! The key is being approachable and ready when he comes, here’s how: The first thing is as a single woman you are only allowed about five off days a month. You should always be on point wherever you go. If you are going to the grocery store, gym, work, church, gas station, a friend’s house you should be dressed nice with combed hair. No quick runs with hoodies and head wraps unless it’s one of those five days. CHOOSE THOSE FIVE DAYS WISELY!!! You do not have to go grocery shopping in heels but at least be very presentable everywhere you go. Be approachable, every man is not bad. Try something different the next time a guy tries to talk to you and he’s not your typical “type” try it out. It’s not like your “type” has worked before, try something new. I believe that when we continuously go after the same “type” we get the same results each time. For example, if you only talk to guys who are security guards at the club and they let you and your girls in every party for free, do you really think you are the only girl he’s doing that for? Nine times out of ten you’re not, and you are easily disposable to him he has a long list of woman waiting to move up on his top ten hit list, if you know what I mean. Do you have baggage? Are you still bitter from any past relationships? I will give you homework to determine if you are. You cannot hold the next man responsible from the last mans mistakes. Example: When I wear a pair of heels that may hurt my feet I don’t stop wearing heels, I just choose to wear a different pair that may not be similar to the ones that hurt. The new heels may be a different brand, price, or size, but it does not stop me from wearing heels. Dating is the same way I would never negate the fact that you were hurt before, but wait until the wound has healed before you get back out there. Try a new type it’s okay you just may like him. This will be my last one, this blog is getting lengthy- are you mean? As a woman we have the ability to tear down a man in a way that could crush his entire world. We speak words that are sharper then swords and it’s abusive. Emotional abuse is a lot worst then physical and that’s what we do every time we want a man to feel what we are feeling. We cut and we cut deep, at that exact moment we may not know just how detrimental our delivery is but one day we will feel the affects or another woman will, trust me. Once you have learned to balance your independence, become approachable, drop your baggage, and be nice you will be one step closer to him finding you. Once he finds you, you have to seal the deal I will talk to you about that tomorrow…. Homework: Write down the name(s) of every man you have every dated seriously or have entered into a sexual relationship with. As you write this down, also next to their name write down what you feel as you write it whether that’s love, happiness, anger, lust, scared, etc. Then answer these questions: Am I overly independent and must I tell everyone that I pay my own bills? Do I carry drama from one relationship to another? Is drama my security blanket, meaning does it help you not deal with you. Am I a serial dater or do I give myself time to breathe? Know your four. Write down your name, your mother, grandmother, and great grandmother. Then write if any of you have been divorced, are you single, married, or if there’s any repeated cycle of broken relationships with men. Do you cut men with your words? If so write down the names of all those men and write them an apology letter. You do not have to give it to them but you have to begin to purge yourself of the pain. - Elle Harris
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    How To Get A Good Man In 5 Days? | Day Two: While You Wait...
    January 22, 2014
    Have you ever heard the expression hurry up and wait and wonder what in the heck does it mean. Well this is what I am asking you to do. Hurry up and wait. This is the most pivotal moment in your journey because this is where you discover you. One of the happiest and most liberating days in my life, was the day I said no to tolerating men and yes to accepting me. I took the next year of my life truly enjoying and learning to love me all over again. Loving you is urgent this is why the hurrying is so important. In the “hurrying” process you begin to date yourself. Journal, so that you capture the essence of every moment: the good, the bad, and the ugly. If you discover your love for art write it, if you realize watching Love Jones makes you lonely write it, and even if you pick up the phone to call an old FWB (friend with benefits) write it down. This is extremely important because this is how you will monitor progress. This is similar to a 12 step program and some days you will relapse. Some days you will want to settle for the man that makes you feel so good that standards really don’t matter. Sometimes you may even second guess your standards and ask yourself are they really that important. Does he really need a steady job? Does he need to pay child support? He sees his children all the time. How you fight the relapse: focus on your dreams and your visions. As you are learning more about who you really are find out what it is you want to do to make a difference, and take a stab at it. No matter how big or small you feel your dreams are work at them, make them reality, that’s what this time is for. At some time or another you will say to yourself what’s the purpose of this, well I’m here to tell you that this is critical because this is how you learn how to truly love again, and for some of us how to love for the first time. When you start to feel good you will want to look good, so treat yourself to something nice to wear, you can even plan a photo shoot. Get your hair, nails, make up done and publish those pictures. Not for social media, but for yourself. Celebrate the woman you’re becoming while you wait. While you are waiting you while become so wrapped up in this new bliss of life that you will begin to look at men differently. During this process you will be working on making sure that all the answers to your first five questions are now healthy. Your standards for relationships will be solid and you will not waver in them because they will become the foundation on which a dynasty will be built. One thing I know for sure, a man loves a woman that’s confident and secure in herself. Ladies remember independence is of course emancipating, but do not become so liberated that a man has no room to be a man. Now tune in tomorrow as we will determine if you are date-able… Homework: Buy a journal/composition notebook ($1.00 at the dollar tree) Questions: What was the last thing you’ve done for yourself? Name 10 things you love about yourself? How do you stop yourself from calling Mr. Wrong? (If you don’t stop yourself that’s ok just write it) What’s your definition of alone and lonely? Name five bucket list ideas you want to achieve this year. - Elle Harris
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    How To Get A Good Man In 5 Days? | Day One: Why Do You Want A Man?
    January 21, 2014
    If you are reading this it means that you want to know the secret to getting and keeping a good man in 5 days. So that we are on the same page in 5 days meaning 1,2,3,4,5 days I will give you the secrets. I believe that the man finds you, yet it’s up to you to be ready when he comes along. So each day for the next five days I will give you the keys to make this happen. So stay tuned and each day there will be homework. Day One: Over the last few weeks I have been battling whether or not I would write this blog, but today I read something that gave me the confirmation to do it. It seems, and this is just my heavily observed opinion- that we have fallen more in love with the idea of wanting a man than actually knowing what to do with a man. We treat men like new shoes they blow our mind when we first see them, we want to show them off, take care of them, and keep them close when they still have that new smell. Then reality sets in and we do one of a few things: get bored and want something new, lose interest, or we work hard and cherish what we have. For the ladies who cherish the men they have, this blog is not for you this is strictly for those of us who haven’t mastered that art just yet. For the ladies, who do the opposite I want to start by saying we have to do so much better. I have seen these wish lists of the perfect man and all the things that he has to do for us and provide us emotionally, physically, and sexually. I am here to say STOP DOING THIS!!! If I see one more Instagram/Facebook post on how we would rather be single, then lied to cheated on, etc. or how we will wait patiently for the man to sweep us off our feet I am going to scream. So I want you to take the why do I want a man challenge with me, here is your homework. Answer these five questions and I will see you tomorrow. Why do I want a man? How much time do I devote to self- improvement a week? What are my top 10 must haves in a relationship? How can I match that, for example, if you do not want him to be a momma’s boy, can you match that with not telling your mother all of relationship drama. Is a man a need or added value in my life? Do I have a healthy relationship with my father?  
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    Conversations With Elle | Author Shyla Miles
    January 5, 2014
    Conversations With Elle is a series presented by World Wide Women Group that talks with groups of men and women about different topics that arise in our society. For the third episode, the founder of the World Wide Women Group, Elle Harris speaks with author of the book Broken Promises, Shyla Miles and they discuss the book, the urban book genre, the struggles of being an author and more.
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    KMK Productions & Olive Coco Mag Presents The Power100 Networking Event
    January 5, 2014
    To help bring women together leading up to the Heartbeat Gala, KMK Productions and Olive Coco Mag presents The Power100 Networking Event. This event brought together different women who are business owners to network and just generate ideas.
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    Beauty Beyond Measure and World Wide Women Group | Survivor's Birthday Celebration
    January 5, 2014
    Beauty Beyond Measure and World Wide Women Group presents the Survivor's Birthday Celebration. The event was created to bring together all survivors of cancer, domestic abuse, divorce, substance abuse and more. You can find more info on this event at: www.worldwidewomengroup.org
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    Survivors Birthday Celebration: No Limit Mimes perform to Marvin Sapp
    January 5, 2014
    At the 2013 Survivors Birthday Celebration,No LImit Mimes performs to a Marvin Sapp classic. This event was brought to you by Beauty Beyond Measure and World Wide Women Group.
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    Cheryl Davis Speaks On The Reason For The Survivors Birthday Celebration
    January 5, 2014
    World Wide Women Group's founder, Elle Harris and her mother Cheryl Davis team up to bring you the Survivors Birthday Celebration, which was created to bring together all survivors of cancer, domestic abuse, divorce, substance abuse and more. You can find more info on this event at: www.worldwidewomengroup.org
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    Conversations With Elle: Men Answering The Questions That Women Want to Know (Ep 2)
    January 5, 2014
    Conversations With Elle is a series presented by World Wide Women Group that talks with groups of men and women about different topics that arise in our society. For the second episode, the founder of the World Wide Women Group, Elle Harris speaks with three men and they discuss different questions that women wanted to know about men. Topics include walking into a relationship with a woman, choosing a female best friend over your wife/girlfriend, how much does a woman's past matter and more.
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    Conversations With Elle: Women Answering The Questions That Men Want to Know (Ep 1)
    January 5, 2014
    Conversations With Elle is a series presented by World Wide Women Group that talks with groups of men and women about different topics that arise in our society. For the first episode the founder of the World Wide Women Group, Elle Harris speaks with 4 women and they discuss different questions that men wanted to know about women. Topics include women's pride, staying with a man that cheats, how many times a woman wants to have sex and more.
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    Conversations With Elle: Thoughts On Sex On The First Night
    January 5, 2014
    As part of the discussion panel video series, Conversations With Elle, we released a short clip of a discussion that talks about their thoughts on a woman having sex with them on the first night. This clip features LeCardi Johnson, Aaron Griffin and Edward Parker.
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    Conversations With Elle: Does Not Having Your Father Affect Your Future Relationships???
    January 5, 2014
    As part of the discussion panel video series, Conversations With Elle, we released a short clip of a discussion that talks about how not having your father in your life affects your future relationships. The clip features LeCardi Johnson and Aaron Griffin.
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    Conversations With Elle: Whose Fault Is It When Somebody Cheats????
    January 5, 2014
    As part of the discussion panel video series, Conversations With Elle, we released a short clip of a discussion that talks about taking a man back after he cheats on you and really whose fault is it when someone cheats. This clip features Alicia and Ciara.
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    Conversations With Elle: Your Lady Or Your Female Best Friend..... You Choose
    January 5, 2014
    As part of the discussion panel video series, Conversations With Elle, we released a short clip of a discussion that talks about a man having to choose between his lady and his female best friend. It features LeCardi Johnson.
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    HER Story - Lorraine Hailes Stokes
    January 5, 2014
    HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Loraine Hailes Stokes, who has been through her fair share of life changing obstacles but she is still able to overcome all of those obstacles.
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    Conversations With Elle: How Often Do Women Really Want To Have Sex?
    January 5, 2014
    As part of the women's panel video series, Elle's Tea Talk, we released a short clip of one of the panelist Jame' Young talking about how many times she would want to have sex.
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    HER Story - Chelsea Vicente
    January 5, 2014
    HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Chelsea Vicente, who is a college student at Old Dominion University and her story is about how her past and where she comes from doesn't dictacte who she is and where she will be going in the future.
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    Metamorphosis International Enterprises' 2013 Realizing You Conference | Recap
    January 5, 2014
    Metamorphosis International Enterprise presents the first annual Realizing You Conference. The conference was a weekend long event and held at the Renaissance Hotel in Portsmouth, Va and featured speakers such as Benita Adams and Antonina Griffin among others. For more info on the conference as well as other events from Metamorphosis International check out their website, www.metamorphosisintl.com
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    HER Story - Sabrina Lynch
    January 5, 2014
    HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Sabrina Lynch, who is a writer and mother and her story is about being involved in an abusive relationship and how she is overcoming that obstacles.
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    Realizing You Conference 2013 | Antonina Griffin's Story
    January 5, 2014
    At the recent Realizing You Conference presented by Metamorphosis International Enterprise, the keynote speaker was Antonina Griffin. She shared her story on being a motherless and fatherless child, being molested and raped, as well as having 4 kids at a young age. She was able to overcome all of those obstacles and make a life for her self. Make sure you check out her story.
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    Realizing You Conference 2013 | Benita Adams On Realizing Your True Potential
    January 5, 2014
    As part of the Realizing You Conference 2013, news anchor Benita Adams speaks to the jam packed audience about realizing your true potential. The Realizing You Conference was brought to you by Metamorphosis International Enterprise.
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    Realizing You Conference | Remove The Mask
    January 5, 2014
    As part of the Realizing You Conference a couple of women had the chance to "Remove The Mask" which symbolizes not being bound by previous obstacles that you have had to face or being holding on to negative experiences that have hindered you. The Realizing You Conference was brought to you by Metamorphosis International Enterprise.
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    HER Story - Jasmine Young
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Jasmine Young from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Jasmine Young, who is currently in her Senior year at George Mason University, public speaker and she so much more and she pretty much is telling people what HER Story means to her.
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    HER Story - Davida Bratton
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Davida Bratton from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Davida Bratton, who is a mother, wife and a Purpose Coach and she talks about trying to live up to the expectations that other people have of her instead of doing what she wants to do in life.
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    HER Story - Christina Kanu
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Christina Kanu from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Christina Kanu, who is a college student at Old Dominion University and is currently the Director of Communications and Community with Bonfire Impact, and she talks about being in leadership and some of the trials and tribulations that come along with that.
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    World Wide Women Group | Return To Royalty Rally
    January 4, 2014
    World Wide Women Group | Return To Royalty Rally from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. World Wide Women Group's presents the first annual Return To Royalty Rally in Portsmouth, Virginia. The purpose of the event was to bring together women from different backgrounds, status, age, and race. The event features ZUMBA, Personal Trainers, Singers, Poets, and a Fashion Show. For more events make sure you check out WorldWideWomenGroup.com. Powered by The Rebel Society.
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    HER Story - Sherri Scott Novoa
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Sherri Scott Novoa from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Sherri Scott Novoa, who is an actress and motivational speaker, and she talks about being attacked by a gang, battling a sickness, being a survivor and more. There is also a cameo by her grandmother, Mrs Raspberry.
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    World Wide Women Group's Return To Royalty (Commercial)
    January 4, 2014
    World Wide Women Group's Return To Royalty (Commercial) from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. Return to Royalty Rally is an effort designed to connect women from all walks of life. It alleviates social class, age, race, and religion. The purpose of this event is to begin to cultivate change and barriers that divide women unnecessarily. This event will celebrate women, introduce businesses and offered services to the community. We want you there men are welcomed as we need your support too. Please contact us at worldwidewomengroup@gmail.com if you want to showcase your business talents or tell your story. This is a FREE event for the public and business owners!!!
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    HER Story - Jenae Gardner
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Jenae Gardner from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Jenae Gardner, who is a single mother and founder of Eanej Treasures accessories line, and she talks about growing up as a Preacher's Kid, being molested, being abused and dealing with the effects of a major car accident.
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    HER Story - Demia Lindsey-Mitchell
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Demia Lindsey-Mitchell from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Demia Lindsey-Mitchell, who is an author and founder of the children's series, Ty Toonz, and she talks about growing up in a rough neighborhood, beating her addiction and not giving up.
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    HER Story - Juanika Dildy
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Juanika Dildy from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Juanika Dildy, who is an entrepreneur and she talks about not achieving immediate success in business, the passing of her friend due to leukemia and her mother's battle with cancer.
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    HER Story - Brittney Dennis
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Brittney Dennis from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Brittney Dennis, who is a social worker and mother of two and she talks about overcoming obstacles such as flunking out of school, getting a divorce and raising a daughter with down syndrome.
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    HER Story - Stephanie Bradley-Blue
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Stephanie Bradley-Blue from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Stephanie Bradley-Blue, who is the founder of My Life Speaks Project who had to deal with a condition that truly rocked the foundation of who she was.
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    HER Story - Santana Lipscomb
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Santana Lipscomb from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Santana Lipscomb, who is a seminary student at Regent University and she talks about the challenges of repairing an estranged relationship with her father, as well as following her calling of being in seminary school.
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    HER Story - Jetaun Frasier
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Jetaun Frasier from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Jetaun Frasier, who is a seminary student at Regent University and she talks about the decision she made to leave the United States to travel abroad and live in Japan.
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    HER Story - Vanessa Ashford
    January 4, 2014
    HER Story - Vanessa Ashford from The Rebel Society on Vimeo. HER Story is a video series by World Wide Women Group and it focuses on telling the everyday story of what women in the world are faced with. This video features Vanessa Ashford, who is a college student at George Mason University as well as poet, and she talks about women knowing their worth and at the end she recites her poem called "Know Your Worth."
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